The cheating mentality rests solely on the man involved. All men are not the same as you may common hear and certainly all men aren’t dogs which is definitely stressed. The reasons, excuses and explanations all vary due to the particular nature of the relationship and the male’s personal background, upbringing, maturity and responsibility. Basic rationale and justification are as follow:
1. CONVENIENCE: Sex is on a man’s mind every 7 seconds according to Kinsey’s report. 61 percent men masturbate two to three times a week. Men with high sex drives often cheat just because. The hot flash arrives and he simply calls or visits his woman of choice and there it is. Nothing to do with whether or not he is fulfilled, it’s simply you are not there at the time of need. Frightening, maybe but unless you plan on staying home and being at his every beg and call, there’s nothing you can do to stop this immaturity.
2. RELATIONSHIP SHIFT: Most men fear commitment because it’s often described in such a serious and grim manner. Women have the common mistake of building relationships in stages frequently accumulating intensity along the way. What once started as a beautiful friendship and relationship then transcended to a strict and demanding engagement and marriage. Sex is often used as a tool to force or provoke a man to modify his relationship perspective into the next level. A disrupted healthy sex life habitually attacks the pride of a man. He subconsciously begins to believe he is maybe not good enough since the sex abruptly ceased. Thus leading to the search of a partner who wants sex without the hassle of a deep sense of commitment. Children often affect the quantity and maybe the quality of sex. Some occasions you just don’t have the time for a marathon and a quickie might have to suffice. But one quick session every so often then turns into 3 years of one hitter quitters maybe twice a month. A healthy sex life should be preserved until age and time kicks in. Sex is simply a fraction of our existence but some men can’t think that far ahead.
3. DRAMA/NAGGING: Evidently this is the most commonly used but abused mind state. Most men lacking the understanding of women and in particular, their women, tend to lean towards this theory as an escape or validation of cheating. Consistent “nagging” or “drama” pushes simple brothers away. Instead of expressing their frustrations with their partner, they stress them to close companions who suggest sometimes the wrong judgment, bottling the stress inside then cheating out of a sense of unconfined aggravation and allocated sentiment or they begin exploring for someone less antagonistic leading to the universal “friend who understands and promises to be different.”
4. UNFULFILLING PARTNER: Some men end up with the women they love but not the sexual partner they desire. They may have experienced a sexual partner who escapades were consistently vibrant or simply crave their lovers to “open up” a little more. Most women refuse the curious nature of oral and anal sex, toy use, outdoor exploration and ménage de tois feeling violated by its simple request. A hungry man often feeds his self if not fed at home. One of men’s basic principles is to experience a sense of manhood and sexual maturity. As lovers, we need to discuss the dos and don’ts of experiencing the broad aspects of sexuality with a sense of respect, submission and sacrifice.
5. GREED: Some men just find the need to live by the “divide and conquer” principle. Often with a partner who lacks the attentiveness or accepts whatever lies, excuses and alibis they provide, men leans towards this weakness so as to provide themselves with a sense of fulfillment. Greed leads to destruction. These men are often sloppy and just enjoy the thrill and high of dominating and conquering. Roaming eyes leads to flirtation which then pilots the simply casual conversation and the “discovery of something new”. Men like the unearthing of freshness. Often stressed throughout our growth is the male standard of exploring your options and keeping plenty of them. Young chick, wife, mistress, and the chick on the side are common social tradition.
6. EGO/WEAKNESS: Several men cheat just to fit in the “playa” outlook. Normally when men gather together, they share stories and exchange rendezvous chronicles. Your man’s entourage can provoke him to step out if he’s weak-minded. We as men have a tendency to degrade the men who choose to uphold his dedication. We see it as a violation of friendship and attack their pride by questioning their manhood. Some women know how to stroke the ego of a “downed” soldier. Men who tend to wear their love on their sleeve become victims of greedy woman who aim to remove the pain or struggle within this relationship. Blindly falling prey to simplest compliments, they begin to compare the treatment from their “friend” to the handling of their partner. Some men have never discovered the beauty in their masculinity. These late bloomers also regularly fall for flattering remarks and ego stroking.
7. BASIC ROUTINE: Some brothers have just been fed the constant gratification of being pleased by women that it's fundamental custom to simply keep numerous partners. Not saying that they cant become one woman men but they have never had a woman to stress its importance because their women were too busy being fearful of losing them. The weak mentality of his woman keeps the habit ongoing. Often the men with the fast money, high lifestyle and secure habitat lead these lives.
8. PROFIT/MUTUAL AGREEMENT: Sex often comes with benefits and understanding. With the rapid and carefree world we leave in now, some men use sex as a utensil for benefits, money and advancement. Free hookups, job promotion or gifts are common attributes of sex. Mutual agreements kicks in usually with past partners (the ex, baby mama etc.) or new “friends” wanting nothing more but simple indulgence whenever it’s needed. They have no emotional attachment and vow to never “snitch” so the comfort and ease are time and time again too strong to resist.
Infidelity is wrong no matter the reason or purpose. Not to say they are purposely performed all the time but there are simple rules of engagement to possibly prevent the slightly foreseeable. Foundation is extremely important. A woman’s sense of worth needs to be embroidered at often as possible. Establish your presence and significance in his life. Become the girlfriend, fiancée and wife his friends and employees respect and admire. Be the lady in the street and the freak in the bed. Be strong and firm in self worth but submissive as to feed his masculinity. Allow your man to be a man but hold him to respectable standards of manhood. Discuss and clear this past. Root him in spiritually and surround him with growing and mature men who live with a sense of purpose. Bored men perform substandard deeds. Inform your man of his greatness with pride and delight. Brush his ego, feed his desire and most importantly, display the prominence and immense magnitude of a true woman. A man who respects, honors and loves his woman will attempt to never break her empowerment. Real men understand his infidelity directly affections the livelihood of his relationship, family and development. Real men fear the lost of the most influential woman in their lives. A relationship without absolute trust falls at the waist side on the first test. Strong women build strong men, but they will not stand by and be disrespected by the man who claims to love her.
