My boyfriend of 11 years has degenerative disc disease, and the pain in intense and he can get moody, and sometimes a straight up a*****e. I know it's not the same as seizures, since they affect your brain and that's what causes the changes in personality, point being I get what it's like to be with someone with a medical condition and it's EXHAUSTING! We may not be the ones with the medical problem, but we are certainly affected by it.
I don't think you're TA. I'm not sure if anyone is in this case. Assuming his response was something he had little control over. Are you sure that all of his mood issues are related to seizures? Is he aware of how his behavior has affected you during these episodes? Like apologizing once he's clear headed? I'm wondering why you were doing his laundry. Is this a regular thing? Or just a favor? Besides the medication, (which I wonder why he can't control) is he able to care for himself? Like shopping, cleaning, working, etc. Anyway though, you have a right to be upset too, and I don't think you were wrong to yell at him. Yeah, he might not have much control, but he was still being a d**k, and you said it yourself. How much are you expected to take?
I would definitely talk to him about this. Say how you understand how this affects him, but explain how it affects you too. In addition to his medication, could he try something like cognitive restructuring? Maybe he could find some tools to help him cope with his personality changed. But you need to figure out to handle this before resentment takes over. Best of luck to you both. 😁
I don't think you're TA. I'm not sure if anyone is in this case. Assuming his response was something he had little control over. Are you sure that all of his mood issues are related to seizures? Is he aware of how his behavior has affected you during these episodes? Like apologizing once he's clear headed? I'm wondering why you were doing his laundry. Is this a regular thing? Or just a favor? Besides the medication, (which I wonder why he can't control) is he able to care for himself? Like shopping, cleaning, working, etc. Anyway though, you have a right to be upset too, and I don't think you were wrong to yell at him. Yeah, he might not have much control, but he was still being a d**k, and you said it yourself. How much are you expected to take?
I would definitely talk to him about this. Say how you understand how this affects him, but explain how it affects you too. In addition to his medication, could he try something like cognitive restructuring? Maybe he could find some tools to help him cope with his personality changed. But you need to figure out to handle this before resentment takes over. Best of luck to you both. 😁