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I (M49) have been with my wife (56) for almost 20 years now. We have one daughter (20) who is currently in college and still living with us.
Over the past few years, especially after she went through the "change" we have been slowly drifting apart
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We no longer sleep in the same room because she says that I become erratic with my dreams and move too much. That's fine.
We have not been intimate for over 10 years now
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I try to initiate things but she just says not to touch her. Even if I sit by her, she gets up and moves. I have always been a hopeful romantic. I no longer have the friend I once had.
She’s not interested in counseling and I have brought up the D word during an argument but it seemed to really upset her
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We have not talked about it since. The reason I’m still here is because if I were to leave I don’t know how she would be able to support herself because she only has a part-time job. I’m just trying to hang on until my daughter finishes college, which will be in a few months. My SO keeps threatening to move out every time we argue but she never does. I tell her if she’s not happy here to stay with one of her friends. If she told me she had a BF it wouldn’t even bother me. I just want her to be happy and enjoy her life, but I want the same too. So, my question is AITA for wanting out of this relationship?
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