My mom just passed away and I had family come in from out of town for the funeral. They wanted to go do something as a family and wanted to see the aquarium since non of them had been there before. My daughter and her boyfriend hadbplans to go to the aquarium with their daughter(4 months old) for Valentine's day. I did not know of the aquarium plans until morning of and daughter was on way to the house. As soon as I found out, I tried calling her to tell her but she did not answer. She shows up at the house while I was getting ready and when I came out I did not see her boyfriend (no surprise though because he refuses to do anything with us and always has an excuse). I asked where her boyfriend was and she stated some excuse like always. I then told her about the plans. She said "Oh well, we just wont twll him" Well, I get a text from her boyfriend (she is 18 he is 17) and he is telling me how bad of a person I am because I knew of their plans. I tried explaining and of course he doesnt care. We have butted heads since my granddaughter was about 2 months old. He tells me that I dont care of my granddaughter and that I am no longer pushing my way around to get what I want and then tells me I am no longer going to see my granddaughter. Before my mom passed away it was almost a month since I had seen her because he doesnt want anybody in their lives except for his family and now he is doing it again. My mom's funeral was just 4 days ago and now I am dealing with this stuff again. He is always holding my granddaughter over my head and keeps her from us for no reason. There is no abuse in our home, no drugs, no drinking, and up until my mom was dying, we all worked full time jobs. I don't know what to do and to makenit worse is that my daughter doesnt back us up and allows her boyfriend to be disrespectful towards us and continues to allow him to hold their daughter from us.I don't feel like we have done anything wrong but now she won't even talk to us as of today.
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That’s not right. Her boyfriend shouldn’t be able to keep you from our granddaughter. I agree with Joel, try to get a lawyer and take it to court.(this is DP on alt account)
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Definitely NTA. He’s a 17-year old kid who wants to play adult and is throwing his weight around. Who supports their little family? I doubt they can live on their own supported by a 17-year old. Is his family driving all this? Talk to your daughter before you go to an attorney. Try sitting down with him and having a conversation about the situation. Don’t rely on texts…it’s too easy to misconstrue and to take potshots from the keyboard. And remember. They may be parents, but they’re clearly not adults.
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