AITA?
A family member of mine works in healthcare and also smokes weed kinda regularly. They were looking to change jobs within that area. Healthcare is an industry that more often than not, new applicants to a job will be urine tested for any drugs or tobacco.
Full disclosure, I had taken a test for them when I was in highschool. Since that point I had turned to my religious beliefs more fully, and have since learned that doing such a thing is illegal. So I told the family member I could not do that again.
Years later it is the beginning of covid and money is tight. The family member came to me for a 3rd time just expecting me to give them a sample for them to pass this test. (I'm a pretty safe bet since I never did drugs, but that doesn't matter). It was as if my previous respectful reasoning was just not listened to.
I refused and they snapped, in such a way that one would think I refused them a life saving kidney. They called me expletives, said I was childish, and broke my door. They wanted to physically fight me, even.
I stuck to my right as a grown person to try to live my morals. I told them that if you know what industry you work in wants of you, maybe you should try to behave according to your goals. They yelled at me and never listened to me. They never apologized for breaking my door, nor the venomous words they used.
I understand that times are tough. I just wish someone would see that it is also hard to be in this world and try to live your beliefs when there are hundreds of things trying to pull you away. I'm disrespected, stifled and stepped on. It seems that no one thinks quite the same way I do.
At the end, the family member said to another over the phone that they could have gotten another to do it.
AITA for refusing? Am I actually childish?
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NTA - regardless of religion or beliefs it isn’t your responsibility to provide a clean urine sample. If they knew an opportunity was coming up, they need to get clean; either by themselves or by getting help. Completely different if they said “hey, can you help me get clean for this drug test” then yeah, you’d 100% be there. But to then rage out over your decision. Shows just how much they need help.
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