One of the staples of a wedding for a bride is a dream dress. There are many things to consider: the weather, the theme of the wedding, the price, etc. On average, it takes brides four to five months to find the perfect dress. Some brides get custom dresses, others rent them for this one occasion, while others opt for something vintage.
This mother tried to pressure her daughter to wear her wedding dress from 1989. Unfortunately, the young bride wasn't a fan of the vintage vibe and went for a modern look. To buy her dream dress, she even worked double shifts. So, when her mother spitefully sabotaged her dress, the only thing she could do was uninvite her and hope for no drama going forward.
A bride broke her back working to finally buy the wedding dress of her dreams
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But in a few seconds, her mother completely ruined the gown and put her wedding in peril
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The bride should be the one to make decisions about her wedding dress, not her friends or loved ones
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A wedding is an occasion to celebrate the bride and groom. While a lot of effort goes into accommodating the guests, it's still the big day of two people. In essence, their opinions and wishes should matter the most when it comes to the theme, the outfits, whether children should be present, and so on.
Granted, some parents might feel entitled to have their opinions heard if they are funding the wedding. According to one source, parents nowadays pay for about 52% of the wedding expenses, and the newlyweds cover the rest. Still, that doesn't mean that they get to make the decisions for the couple, especially if these decisions go against the wishes of the bride or the groom.
It's hard to wrap your head around something like what happened in this story. The author doesn't go into detail about whether her mother is funding the rest of the wedding and is therefore convinced that she has a say in what dress the bride wears. Nevertheless, it's important to note that there's no excuse for what she did and how much pain she caused her daughter.
Not all mothers are so horrible. Some can be quite helpful in helping their daughters pick the perfect wedding dress. Many brides take their mothers to fittings to help them make better decisions. However, the bride is still the one who makes the final decision.
According to Le Dressing Club, "Don't forget that YOU are the one getting married, so the decision is entirely your own. You can listen to the advice and opinions of your loved ones, but you must be sure of your choice for THE dress for your big day."
Some brides go for vintage dresses, but they often need expensive alterations
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It's not entirely clear if the mother asked her daughter to wear the wedding dress as it was. That would be unusual, since some women choose to wear their mother's dress, but they almost always alter the parts that are the most outdated. Wearing a dress from almost 40 years ago is just not what brides do. They're looking for something modern yet classic at the same time.
A puffy-sleeved dress is not something many brides nowadays would go for. According to Ambience Venue Styling, it's standard for vintage dresses to be updated to a more modern-adjacent style.
Unfortunately, that doesn't always mean it's going to be cheaper than making a custom dress or buying a new one. In fact, alterations sometimes might cost even more, as a seamstress might only be able to take elements of the dress, and the rest of the fabric, boning, and embellishments have to be thrown away.
Nevertheless, many brides are choosing vintage dresses instead of new ones. While few are borrowing from their mothers, some are looking for something more sustainable, unique, and refreshing. Lily Kaizer, owner of the LA-based vintage bridal boutique the Happy Isles, told Vogue that since the pandemic, interest in vintage bridal looks has increased.
"People are going for the '70s-style relaxed silhouette, and we've had a lot of requests for '90s minimal styles," she noted. At her boutique, laid-back designer pieces cost somewhere between $950 and $1,400. Major designer labels like Oscar de la Renta, Yves Saint Laurent, and Azzedine Alaïa go for something like $2,800 to $6,800.
Still, Kaizer says that brides should befriend a tailor if they're thinking about a vintage dress. "Maybe it's a couple of sizes too big, but you're obsessed with it and there's only one in the whole world."
Commenters sided with the bride, questioning what kind of narcissist a mother has to be to do something like this to her own daughter
