Pretty much anyone can be kind at the beginning of a relationship. We all want to put our best foot forward, impress our date, and show them that we can be a wonderful partner. As the months and years go by, though, it becomes impossible to hide your true colors. And unfortunately, some people are like a frog in a pot. They have no idea how toxic their relationship has become because it happened so gradually…
One woman’s world was turned upside down when her boyfriend of 5 years suddenly dumped her via text. But after she got some perspective on the situation, she realized that it was the best thing that could have happened to her. Below, you’ll find the full story that she shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left her.
This woman was devastated when her boyfriend suddenly decided to end their relationship
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But once she took some time to think about it, she realized that he was doing her a favor
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Later, the author responded to several readers and shared some more details on her situation
Many readers called out the man for his immature behavior
Then, the author returned with an update
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Again, she clarified some additional details for readers
In a long-term, serious relationship, a text-based breakup is almost never ideal
While it may seem impossible to find a good way to end a relationship, there are certainly some methods that are worse than others. An honest in-person conversation in a calm place is usually ideal. Meanwhile, receiving a break-up text sounds like something that only immature 13-year-olds should have to experience.
According to Psychotherapy for Young Women, people sometimes opt for a text-based breakup because it allows them to avoid having an emotionally charged conversation. It’s also easier if the couple is long-distance or if one partner has concerns about their safety. Sometimes people also choose to break up via text if they have social anxiety, past trauma, or the relationship was casual from the beginning.
However, if the couple has been together for a long period of time, if the partner getting dumped deserves more closure, or if the couple shares a community or social circle, they deserve to have a face-to-face breakup conversation.
If someone really feels that ending their relationship over text is the right move, Psychotherapy for Young Women notes that there’s still a “right” way to go about it. It’s important to acknowledge the relationship and be honest, but kind. Take responsibility for your part in the breakup, and set boundaries for moving forward. Then try to end on a compassionate note.
It’s never going to be easy to accept that you’ve been broken up with, especially when it’s not what you wanted. But as the woman in this story found out, sometimes, it’s for the best. And in recent years, single women seem to be having a renaissance.
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Women nowadays would rather be single and happy than settle for a relationship that doesn't benefit them
According to predictions from Morgan Stanley, 45% of women in the United States between the ages of 25 and 44 will be single by 2030. There has also been a growing trend of women getting married later in life or not at all. And this isn’t because they can’t find relationships or someone to propose; it’s simply because they’re happy on their own.
Women today have financial freedom and career opportunities that their parents and grandparents didn’t have access to. Plus, it’s much easier to keep in touch with friends and family today, thanks to the internet and social media, so women can easily avoid feeling lonely, even if they live alone. When they are perfectly content being single, there’s no reason to bring a partner into their life unless he is truly going to enhance it.
“I work with a lot of liberal, educated, very open-minded, progressive women, and it’s a struggle to find liberal, open-minded men,” Leah Aguirre, LCSW, told Women’s Health. “People are engaging with men who don’t seem upset or disturbed by the political climate. That’s frustrating and concerning for these women.”
We’ve all heard it a thousand times before, but it really is important not to settle. Even if you’ve been with your partner for 5 years, you do not owe them the rest of your life. Especially if they’re not adding any value or benefit.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. How would you have reacted if you were in the author’s shoes? Then, if you’d like to check out another article from Bored Panda featuring similar stories of relationship drama, look no further than right here.
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Many readers shared supportive messages for the author, noting that she's much better off without her ex
