Weddings are meant to be memorable, and many couples pour time and effort into making their big day look picture-perfect.
But in the rush to create an Instagram-worthy celebration, this bride took things a step too far. She decided to ban water bottles at her outdoor ceremony—held in blazing heat—because they didn’t match the aesthetic and would “ruin the vibe.”
What followed was what one attendee described as “The Thirst Games.” Read the full story below.
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The bride held her wedding outside in blazing heat
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But with barely any water, the day turned into what one guest called “The Thirst Games”
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How to be a bride without losing your mind or your friends, according to experts and guests
A wedding is often dubbed the most important day of your life, and that title carries a lot of weight.
You only get to do it once (hopefully), so you tell yourself you have to get it right. That expectation can make even the most level-headed people lose their sanity in the process—and sometimes their relationships and friendships, too.
If you’re the bride, you’ll likely be seen as the one handling everything (coordinator or not) because, well, who else will? At the same time, you’ll probably be judged for being too emotional, assertive, demanding, needy, sensitive, or strict.
Basically, you risk being labeled a bridezilla just for wanting things to be perfect. Which, let’s be honest, is pretty misogynistic. And despite all the planning and worrying, over 80% of women still have regrets about their wedding, according to one study.
But… it’s also true that some actions can make you a bad bride and a bad host, leaving your wedding with a sour aftertaste. Say, not providing enough water in terrible heat.
So how do you become a bride who actually enjoys the day and helps your guests enjoy it, too? Experts and guests, in conversation with Bustle, share some advice.
Remember they’re your loved ones
Your friends and family often put a lot on hold to show up for your big day. They adjust their schedules, budgets, and energy to support you during the wedding whirlwind. And while most are glad to help, it’s easy to cross the line from grateful to taking their support for granted.
“Getting married and planning a wedding entitles you to love, support, and celebration from loved ones—but not unwavering fawning, acclimating, or self-sacrifice,” Landis Bejar, LMHC, owner of wedding-focused therapy practice AisleTalk, told Bustle.
Making people stand in scorching heat for the sake of photos isn’t exactly going to leave them smiling. It’s important to keep their comfort in mind, too.
Consider the costs
Before asking friends to join your bridal party, help them understand what they’re signing up for financially.
Will there be a destination bachelorette party, and is attendance expected? Are you asking them to buy an expensive dress, or can they choose their own? Who’s covering the bridal shower costs?
Even if you’re upfront about expenses from the start, remember that plans change and small costs can add up quickly, making it harder for some friends to keep up.
Rethink the strict dress code
Cue vinyl scratch and dramatic pause. Yes, you have a vision, an aesthetic, and a Pinterest board.
But forcing your friends to all wear the same—often expensive—outfit can be a big ask. Even if they don’t say it, some may feel uncomfortable with the cost or the style.
Try letting your bridal party pick their own outfits within a color scheme or general aesthetic. This approach isn’t just stylish; it also ensures your friends feel confident in what they’re wearing without stretching their budgets.
Keep things in perspective
It’s easy to feel like your wedding is the most important event in the world. But it’s not the only thing happening in everyone else’s life.
Abigail, a former maid of honor, recalls what happened when she missed her friend’s bridal shower due to a health scare in 2022.
“The bride basically told me that her bridal shower and my health were of equal importance,” Abigail said. “It was just a terrible experience to the point where me and the bride are no longer on speaking terms.”
While not every situation will be this intense, it’s unfair to expect friends and family to drop everything for every wedding event or last-minute plan. Your loved ones want to support you, but they still have their own lives, and those don’t stop just because you’re getting married.
Your wedding should be a joyful occasion, and you deserve to feel celebrated. But for your guests to truly share in that happiness, they need the space to relax and have a good time, too.
Many readers called the rule unbearably harsh, saying no photo is worth that kind of misery
Others shared their own stories of uncomfortable weddings
