According to legend, the biblical King Solomon had a ring engraved with the words “this too shall pass” - perhaps the wisest advice when dealing with any of life’s adversities. Indeed, time is the best healer and can relieve the pain of even the most severe loss in one’s life.
But what should you do if, on the anniversary of the loss of several loved ones at once, you are invited to a wedding? Politely refuse? And what if the bride-to-be is your own daughter? Well, if you don’t believe that this is even possible, then it’s time to read this story from the user Imaginary_Form9887, which we will tell you today.
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The author of the post lost her mom, brother and nephew in a car accident 2 years ago
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It was a huge shock for all the members of the author's extended family and it still hurts today, as she herself says
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However, it turns out that the author's daughter had started dating her boyfriend on this very day - 7 years ago
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So when it came to picking a wedding date, the guy found nothing better than to suggest this 'romantic' idea
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So when the wedding came, literally all the relatives on the bride's side RSVPd No - and the bride got incredibly upset and offended
Tragic events happened in the Original Poster's (OP) family two years ago when her brother, nephew and mother were involved in a car accident. The author's mother died instantly, and the brother and his son passed away the next day. For the OP’s fairly small family, this was a real shock.
By a sad irony of fate, Betty, the daughter of the author of the post, had started dating her boyfriend exactly five years before this accident. Yes, that's right, to the day. And so, about a year ago, the guy proposed to Betty, and she, of course, agreed. The question arose about the wedding date...
If you thought something like: “No, not on this day!” then you are definitely mistaken. The guy thought that scheduling a wedding exactly seven years after the first date sounded damn romantic. True, the fiance clearly didn’t take into account that on that same day, his sweetheart lost her grandma, uncle and cousin...
But the bride, obviously, did not attach much importance to this - especially since, according to her, other dates at the venue they chose were unavailable. Mom tried to delicately hint to Betty that this date looked... well, to put it mildly, inappropriate, but the bride didn’t want to hear anything.
And so, the eve of the wedding arrived - and quite predictably, negative RSVPs came from literally all of the bride’s relatives. The original poster herself reluctantly said she would attend, even though she was hurt too.
When the daughter came to complain to her mom about her “ungrateful” relatives, she once again tried to unobtrusively “open her eyes”, saying that if it weren’t for her own daughter’s wedding, she wouldn’t be coming either. However, this didn’t bring any results - and now the daughter holds the grudge against her mom too.
The author’s husband said that he understands his wife perfectly, but it would be better if she didn’t raise this painful topic in a conversation with Betty. However, the woman is sincerely perplexed as to why her daughter reacted this way - and decided to seek advice online.
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“You know, the groom’s desire to make a romantic, beautiful coincidence of dates is commendable, but definitely not in the current situation,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch over this story. “The most surprising thing for me is that the man had obviously already been dating this woman for 5 years at the time of the accident and, in fact, was also a member of the family. I believe that in such a situation it would be worth taking into account the feelings of his future relatives...”
“Of course, time heals, but scheduling a joyful event on such a date for many family members definitely looks like pouring salt on a healing wound. I believe that the mother’s excessive delicacy also played a role here, and the bride herself believed that by the time of the wedding all the guests will still show up. I think the parents should talk to their daughter or her fiance again. Perhaps he will understand their motivation and be able to explain better," Irina presumes.
As for the commenters on the original post, they were much less delicate in their statements, literally pointing out that the author's daughter looks selfish and entitled here. "Show her - or your husband or both - the comments and tell her to reconsider her position or accept that she is not in fact the center of everyone else's universe," one of the commenters urges the OP.
As for the fact that such a beautiful coincidence of dates for the bride was ruined for a tragic reason, people in the comments are also almost unanimous - she herself insisted on choosing this specific date, and now she is faced with the consequences that she was warned about in advance. "You tried to warn her, but she didn’t care, and now she’s suffering the consequences of her actions," one commenter is pretty much sure.
Well, weddings often bring us many strange, sad and sometimes truly ridiculous stories, and this is not surprising, that's just the way we are as humans. And now we’d also highly appreciate you sharing your opinions over this bride’s decision and her confrontation with her mom, so please feel free to tell your reactions in the comments below.
Most commenters claimed that the bride was selfish and entitled here, and are sure she's just dealing with consequences now
