If you have heard the song Man in Finance, you’re probably familiar with the line, “I'm looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6'5", blue eyes.” Well, all that’s nice, but picture a guy who truly supports and stands up for you, even against his family. Now that’s quite rare, isn’t it?
When the original poster’s (OP) daughter mocked her brother’s wife, who overheard it, the guy sided with his wife and the couple cut off his sister. His mom vented online that even she was forced to pick a side, and people found it refreshing to see a man back his partner over his family!
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Truly fortunate are those who find a partner who supports and stands up for them, even against their own family
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The poster of this story lived with her daughter and son, whose girlfriend used to spend a lot of time at their house and once overheard the daughter mock her
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The furious son moved in with his girlfriend, the couple got married and later had a kid, but the poster didn't attend the event as the daughter wasn't invited
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The poster and her daughter claim that they want to meet the man's child, but the couple don't want to keep any contact with his sister
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The son feels that his mom has chosen his sister over him, but the poster says that the couple is overreacting and her daughter doesn't deserve to be cut off like that
Today, we dive into a story where a man showed that when push comes to shove, he can defend his wife over his family. To start from the beginning, the poster explained that when both her daughter and son lived at home, his girlfriend was a frequent visitor at their house. One day, she overheard her boyfriend’s sister mock her behind her back.
Obviously hurt by it, the son left and the couple moved in together, and in the time that followed, they got married and even had a kid. Now, the poster didn’t attend the wedding as her daughter wasn’t included, and to date, her daughter-in-law wants nothing to do with the sister. The son has also backed up his wife, and his mom and sister have never met his kid because of this.
When the mom tried to talk to her son, he outright refused to mend things with his sister and has never even visited the poster since, as she would be there. He also confided in his mom that she should be on his side as the daughter was in the wrong, but the mom felt that the couple was “overreacting”.
According to OP, the daughter had indeed said something unkind, but didn’t deserve to be cut off; however, it’s important to note that nowhere in the story did she mention what exactly her daughter had said. Even the folks online latched on to this fact and said that they wanted to know about it.
The couple had invited the family, excluding the sister, and this had devastated her. The poster feels like there’s an invisible ultimatum that if they want her to be part of their life, she has to exclude her daughter or lose the relationship with them. She claims that she’s choosing her daughter over her daughter-in-law, but her son feels that she’s choosing his sister over him.
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After the story went online, it didn’t take long for netizens to declare that the mom was simply favoring the daughter, who was the ‘golden child’ of the family. It has been observed that disfavored children can experience bad outcomes like depression, greater aggressiveness, and lower self-esteem. If this disfavoring has been going on since childhood, the son must surely be affected by it.
People couldn’t believe that the poster was missing out on all the important events in her son’s life just because he didn’t want to involve his sister in it. They even felt that the daughter could do anything and get away with it because of the mom. People questioned what it was the daughter had said and whether she had apologized for it.
The poster said nothing about the mockery, but she did mention that the couple refused to even see her, so she couldn’t apologize. They felt that she must have said something really cruel and insulting for the couple to react this way, and to be honest, nobody wants to be insulted by their partner’s family.
According to Marriage.com, “Toxic in-laws often engage in gossip, spreading rumors or talking negatively about you behind your back. This can lead to feelings of betrayal and mistrust as you realize that your in-laws undermine you and your relationships.” It seems like folks were rightly concerned about how overhearing what the sister said might have adversely impacted the wife.
Apart from everything else, what really warmed people’s hearts was the fact that the man chose to stand by his wife and respect her decision. Someone commented that this was very rare and it was actually a delight to read something different for a change. Even we felt that this was a lesson for people to stand up for their partner against a toxic family.
Wouldn’t you agree? Also, what did you make of the whole situation? Jot down your thoughts in the comments!
Folks said that the poster seems to favor her daughter and treat her like a 'golden child' and they even applauded the man for siding with his wife
