In-Laws Go Behind Bride’s Back And Invite Banned Guest To The Wedding, She Cancels The Whole Thing

Scroll down to find the full story and a conversation with Chelsey Morin, wedding planner and coordinator at Double Blessing Events, who kindly agreed to tell us more about weddings and ex-partners.

But there seems to be an exception. “Unless, that is, it was so long ago and you have moved well into the ‘friend’ zone and there are, hand on heart, no feelings towards them from your side then perhaps it is acceptable.” If the breakup was recent and still quite a raw subject, the couple may want to avoid it for the sake of both of them.

Meanwhile, Chelsey Morin, wedding planner and coordinator at Double Blessing Events tells Bored Panda, "This truly depends on each and every couple and what they are comfortable with. Someone else's future husband or wife might not care in the least if you invite your former significant other, but your future husband/wife might prefer you don't. Open, honest, and clear communication with each other is key."

She also urges partners to think about several other factors. "Number one, are you both okay with the ex attending your wedding? Number two, is the ex unhealthy or toxic? Number three, would them not being there affect how much you enjoyed your special day? Would you miss them if they weren't there? Number four, why are you wanting to invite them? Is it because there's a genuine friendship with healthy boundaries? Or is it another reason that might not be a good one?"

"It is normal to feel a little weird or uncomfortable if your future spouse wants their ex at the wedding, especially if it was a serious relationship. The biggest thing here is to understand why they want to invite their ex to the wedding," says Morin.

"Then, after you've listened and heard why, you can say, "I understand you want to invite your ex because _____. When I hear this, it makes me feel _______. I'm not going to force you to make a certain decision either way, but I just want to let you know where I stand and how this makes me feel." And then trust that they will make the best decision for them. The only thing you can do is listen, understand where they're coming from, share how you're feeling, and leave their actions up to the," she concludes.