Having a freezer is a blessing, for lack of a better word. The climate is getting hotter, so how else are you supposed to cool off if not for a freezer accommodating all of your ice cream, ice cubes, and other glacial resources?
However, not everyone gets to enjoy freezers. And I am not talking about those who don’t own them. (Believe it or not, not every fridge has a freezer. Weird). I am talking about this one guy who has a freezer—in fact, he has more than one—but he keeps finding himself fighting over its real estate with the missus.
And it came to a point where he just had to share his frustrations with the Am I The A-Hole community.
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Ever wondered what Schrodinger's freezer would be like? You know, where someone has it and doesn't at the same time
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So, meet 39-year-old husband and protagonist of the story, Reddit user u/BigDreamsSmall[Rooster]. Biggy recently went to Reddit’s Am I The A-Hole community to vent his frustrations, but also to figure out if he was wrong to stand his (frozen) ground and not allow his 32-year-old wife to take over his freezer.
You see, his wife has a bit of a habit of stocking up on frozen food. So much, in fact, that their regular freezer doesn’t seem like it has seen days that there wouldn’t be a buttload of food stored in it.
Well, this guy has one, but his wife hogs all the freezer real estate, and he can't enjoy it, hence the story
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OP did try to tackle the issue on multiple occasions and in various ways. Talking (loads of it) didn’t work. Buying a new fridge with a bigger freezer (that ended up netting him $4,000) only led to more food storage. And it doesn’t help that when he does find a free space to put a burrito in, his wife keeps nagging him about when he’s gonna eat it.
Well, he decided to approach the issue differently. He went ahead and got himself a personal freezer. More than enough space to store all the burritos a guy could ever want. Well, sure enough, the wife stumbled upon it sooner than later and it immediately became her grand quest to take over the frozen wasteland, ripe for the storing of frigid sustenance.
Despite multiple conversations about the wife's excessive frozen food hoarding habits, the husband decided to buy one for himself
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However, the husband was having none of it and specifically asked her to back off from the freezer. She has hers, he has his, and that’s where it’ll stay. Nope. Several days later, it’s already 70% filled up with—yep, you guessed it—frozen foods. He did give her the benefit of the doubt and checked the other freezer. Nope, still as full as it can be.
Ok, no more Mr. Nice Guy. He grabs a garbage bag, dumps everything in it, and chucks it all.
Later that day, the missus returns with yet another fresh stack of frozen foods, ready to become a skyscraper of grub in the remaining 30% of hubby’s freezer. She immediately gets rejected when she finds a chain around the freezer and a padlock, making sure she doesn’t get her hands on the prime real estate inside.
However, despite him specifically asking her not to use it, she does it anyway, and so the consequences were a chain and a padlock
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The wife did not enjoy it one bit, and stormed out, later coming back with a 24-hour ultimatum
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This set off a time bomb of fury, leading to a heated argument with OP. She claimed he was being controlling. He said there is no way in hell (even if it froze over) she’ll be using that freezer. She stormed out to stay with her mom. Later that day, she returned with an ultimatum to give her access within 24 hours.
Nothing happened after 24 hours. Except for OP’s post on Reddit, which asked if he was a jerk for all of this.
And the lovely AITA community had a lot to say about it. A key theme among them was that many thought his wife had some issues—a form of obsessive hoarding.
But internauts were having none of it, saying the OP is not the bung-hole here
But besides all that, yes, OP is entitled to have space in the fridge. It’s a shared space, after all. So, his purchase of a freezer and the padlock are justified. Her anger, given the issue above, isn’t.
If anything, some pointed out that it is she who is being controlling with something that ought to be shared.
OP has addressed some of the other comments, namely all of those who missed the fact that yes, he did try to talk to her about it, talking was the first solution. It never worked, and it felt like his frustrations fell on deaf ears.
He did try to address the hoarding issue as well, but she doesn’t listen to reason and going to the therapist is out of the question. So, he’s at a dead end. This is in context of her threatening him with divorce over the freezer, by the way.
Whatever the case, his story got quite a bit of attention. The post garnered over 16,200 upvotes with a handful of Reddit awards and a truckload (about 2,000) of comments. All of this, you can check out in context here.
Or you can browse any of these fine articles we have, namely this one where the wife “ruined” her husband’s b-day by bolting mid-way, or this one where a guy almost became a dad but after finding out the truth had to distance himself, causing a feud in the family, or this one where a woman got kicked out of a resort by the family that bought her a vacation.
But before you run off, we’d love to hear from you—especially you, Tim—on what OP should do, or what he should not do, or who’s wrong, who’s right, and what is your best freezer story in the comment section below!