In modern relationships, the rules of dating can often be difficult to adjust to, especially if someone is fresh out of a long-term commitment. They might find it confusing or frustrating if they’re only met with liars or ghosters.
That’s what one woman faced when she tried to dip her toe back into the dating pool and got left on read by a guy who she later learned only wanted to use her. This experience annoyed her so much that when she got a chance to reconnect with him, she treated him to some ice-cold revenge.
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Some people treat dating like a game, but don’t realize how many folks they’re hurting in the process
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The poster explained that she had recently gotten out of a long-term relationship and decided to casually meet someone through a dating app to get her mind off things
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Eventually, the woman matched with a guy, and after talking every day for a week, they slept together, but he stopped responding to any of her messages
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The woman was hurt by the man’s ghosting, but three weeks later, she matched with him on another dating app and decided to play with him a little
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After stringing him along for a week, the woman called him over to her place at 1 am in heavy snow, and left him stranded and on read for almost an hour
When the woman got out of her relationship, she had no idea of the challenges that awaited her in the dating world. That’s why, when she matched with a guy, talked to him for a week, and ended up getting ghosted, she felt incredibly hurt. She couldn’t believe that the man would be so manipulative and disrespectful.
Unfortunately, studies have found that around 25% of people have been the victims of ghosting and, shockingly enough, 30% of folks have been the ghosters. The problem is that almost 75% of younger people see this as a reasonable way to end a relationship, even though it might be painful for the other individual.
Being left on read or snubbed by someone you are interested in can be quite difficult to deal with, and experts explain that it might make folks less trusting of their next partner. This experience can also impact a person’s self-esteem and make them question why the other person wasn’t interested in them.
That’s exactly what the OP began to think, and she kept reminiscing about her ex and how he would never have done such a thing to her. She also began to feel a bit wary about matching with a new person, but luckily, she still tried to keep herself open to the dating experience at least for a while.
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Instead of wallowing in her own misery, the woman decided to play a little trick on the man who ghosted her. So, she matched with him on another dating app, then told him that he would have to win back her trust. That’s why they ended up texting for an entire week, and he kept apologizing for his actions.
When the time was right, the OP called him over to her place on the weekend, which turned out to be one of the heaviest snow days. She made sure to ask him to be there around 1 am, by claiming that her roommates would be sleeping then, but it was only because she didn’t want anybody to let him into the apartment building at that time.
Although it might feel amusing at first to carry out a plan of revenge like this, professionals explain that it might actually leave you feeling empty. Instead of getting any closure, the person taking the revenge might still feel angry or distressed after carrying out their plan, and this won’t be healthy for them.
In this case, though, the woman felt glad that she was able to teach her ghoster a lesson by ignoring his texts and calls while he waited for her outside in the cold. Even though it might not have made her feel better about what had happened, hopefully, it helped her move on a bit, or at least made that man reflect a bit on his rude behavior.
What are your thoughts on the woman's clever plan, and would you have done anything differently if you were in her shoes? We'd love to hear your thoughts on the story, and similar experiences, if any.
People were glad that the woman stood up to her ghoster and treated him the exact same way
