I am such a light sleeper that even a tiny creak in the house is enough to wake me up wide awake. However, the worst part is that once I am up, it’s difficult to fall asleep again, so I hate it if someone disturbs me at night.
This woman was also frustrated by her boyfriend, who kept waking her up with his kisses and “love yous” every day before leaving for work. It disturbed her sleep so badly that she honestly considered breaking up with the guy. Read on to find out what exactly happened!
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Any relationship, no matter how loving, can come to an end if one partner simply refuses to listen to the other's needs
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The poster and her boyfriend had different schedules, but he always woke her up to give her a kiss and tell her he loved her before he left for work
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Since it was during her deep sleep, the poster felt disturbed and groggy all day, and this sleep deprivation made her want to break up with the guy
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However, after she vented online, the poster felt that netizens were taking things too far with their criticism, as their relationship was great apart from this issue
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She also updated that she had a word with her boyfriend, who had finally agreed to listen to her and not disturb her sleep every single day
Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP) as she discusses the issue with her boyfriend. The two had separate rooms and also different work schedules. He generally left the house by 7 AM, but as she was a grad student, OP studied till late in the night and preferred sleeping in. However, that barely happened because of her boyfriend’s “lovey-dovey ritual.”
Every single day, he went into her room before leaving for work, kissed her, and told her that he loved her. While it might sound romantic in a fairy tale, in reality, it was quite ghastly as it woke up our heroine, who was unable to complete her eight hours of sleep every day. Besides, according to her Oura ring, she was always shaken awake right during her deep sleep.
Here’s when the plot thickens because she reveals that the guy had been doing it despite multiple warnings from her. In frustration, she vented online that she was really considering breaking up over this, even though everything else was pretty amazing in their relationship. However, she gave an update that she was probably making a mountain out of a molehill.
Moreover, she had also discussed the issue with her boyfriend, who said that he would be more mindful of her sleep in the future. OP even claimed that she was going to leave a dry-erase board for him so that he could leave her illustrations, as he was so good at it. Or, she would let him kiss her on the forehead and not whisper “love you” loudly in her ears!
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We all know how just one day of less sleep makes us feel like a zombie, but imagine having to experience it every day. Apart from the usual headaches, research shows that in the long run, it can be disastrous. It can negatively affect the heart and circulatory system, metabolic system, immune system, nervous system, the brain, and even a person's mental health.
Moreover, experts also warn that a lack of "deep sleep" is linked to health conditions like mood disorders, migraines, heart disease, and obesity. It can also raise a person’s chances of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, high blood pressure, heart attack and stroke, and type 2 diabetes. OP stated that he was constantly waking her up during her deep sleep stage.
No wonder she was so frustrated that she wanted to break up with the guy. Some folks even went so far as to claim that he was emotionally mistreating her as he kept ignoring OP's warnings. Well, studies also emphasize that sleep deprivation and love bombing are forms of emotional violence used to make a person vulnerable, as well as greatly weakened, both physically and psychologically.
However, the poster was quick to clarify that netizens were just taking things too far. She stressed that apart from this issue, they had a loving and respectful relationship. Some folks still refused to let go of the thought that he was disregarding her health completely. Do you think they are right, or are you siding with the poster on this? Let us know in the comments!
Netizens felt that the guy was emotionally mistreating her as he refused to listen to her and disregarded her health as well
