Sometimes you meet a person, and you instantly click, which makes you wonder - why didn't you two meet earlier? So much time wasted being apart that you could've spent together. And then, other times you meet a person, and you instantly know - you don't want to encounter them ever again.
Yet, sometimes, no matter how much you don't want that, you have to, just because they're somehow already integrated into your life. For instance, they're your husband's friend's girlfriend. Yes, that's exactly the situation today's post's author found herself in. But netizens had split opinions about her attitude.
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While sometimes you click with a person you meet for the first time, others times, you experience the complete opposite reaction
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Like this woman, who met her husband's friend's new girlfriend and realized she wouldn’t be buddies with her
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From the second they met, this girlfriend rubbed her the wrong way
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Then, she shared her opinions about the story they were all discussing, which highlighted that she doesn't have that much respect for service industry workers
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This only proved to the woman that while this girlfriend might make her husband's friend happy, she would never be her friend
The OP’s husband has a best friend who has been single for a while. Finally, he found someone with whom he sees himself and introduced her to his friend and his wife, the original poster.
The woman really wanted to like his girlfriend, since she makes the man happy, but after their first meeting, she realized she's not really looking forward to their hangouts in the future. Apparently, from the second they met, the girlfriend rubbed her the wrong way. And then, she shared her opinion on one subject that proved to the OP – they won’t be close friends.
What happened was that her boyfriend shared a story about how his mom realized a drive-thru of a chain restaurant had messed up her order. She drove to another of their locations and demanded that the order be fixed. This kind of demand seemed unreasonable to everyone, except the new girlfriend. She was convinced that the restaurant had to make the order, since it was the same franchise.
This tipped the OP off that this new girlfriend of her husband’s friend was a “Karen,” for sure, one of those who do not respect service workers. She was clearly a person who carries out all sorts of microaggressions, demands to see the manager at any slight inconvenience, belittles service industry workers or other people they deem to be lesser than them, and so on.
So, basically, the woman couldn't see how she could be friends with this woman. Which is kind of puzzling if you really think about - if her friend chose her as his partner, shouldn't that automatically mean they should get along? After all, if you vibe with someone, it's rather likely that they would get into a relationship with someone on a similar wavelength.
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While in some situations that's exactly the case, it's not a guaranteed situation, which today's story proves to be true. When this happens, a person should look within and evaluate why they feel like this towards their friend's significant other - is it really about them, or are some of their own issues manifesting in this dislike?
Of course, it might as well be an issue with them. Maybe you two just don't have any overlapping interests to bond over, or perhaps you're just awkward people or something of that sort. Just because you don't vibe with someone, doesn't mean they're inherently a bad person.
Well, we can't really objectively say which of these applies to today's situation, but from what the OP described, it seems like this woman is a "practicing Karen," which is the main reason their friendship stalled.
While some netizens agreed with the original poster and her sentiments towards this “newcomer”, others thought that she made a snap judgment and didn’t try to fix it in any way, just judged a woman without knowing that much about her.
Which side do you belong to? Please, share your takes in the comments!
Some netizens agreed with woman's opinion, while others thought she might have been to harsh to not reevaluate her snap judgement
