Hey Female Pandas, What’s The Rudest Thing A Man Has Done To You? (Closed)

Dare BP To publish this... Rape.

I have autism. I don’t stare at people, but I zone out frequently. Well, this one guy decided to make my life a living hell. He called me a stalker, made most of my friends turn against me, and literally made authorities against me so he wouldn’t get in trouble. He would bully me verbally, and I’ve told me to kill myself when I was just reading a damn clock! Ik this prolly isn’t what you are thinking about, but he is a guy, and it was the rudest thing a guy has done to me, especially as I was depressed and my nana died at that time too.

Grabbed my boobs whilst asking if he could touch them, every woman you know has been a victim of sexual assault in some way. It is not OK.

Super cute guy from work asked me out, I was new to the city and happily accepted. He picked me up, we had a great dinner and a couple of drinks (he neglected to tell me that he was in recovery) and then wanted to take me to a party. Okay, why not? Well we hadn’t been there 5 minutes and cutie disappears .. I don’t know a soul, or even where we are, and start looking around for him. Nowhere to be found! MF left me!!! I found out at work on Monday that he went on a huge bender and ended up in jail for stealing some jet skis. Worst night of my life. Probably dodged a huge bullet tho

I already see submissions that are criminal vs rude, but I'm going to stick with rude. So many examples to choose from, but I'll go with a classic that I suspect many of you will identify with.

Buying a car with my husband. We are very interested in one in particular, and while we are both asking many questions the salesman is only answering my husband. Offers him to test drive. Really focused on him. We go in the office to discuss. When we sit down, my husband says "I like the car, but the final decision is up to the CFO here, so you are going to have to negotiate price and financing with her". You could see on the guys face that he knew me messed up.

I used to work at a John Deere Dealership and was the mechanic handling all the recall warranty repairs. No particular reason, I was the one randomly selected to do it. It got so I was fast, I could tear down the mower in 15 minutes flat, make the parts swap and have it back together in a little over half an hour.
Enter The Guy. The Guy doesn't want a woman touching his mower. Women can't be mechanics, and I'd only mess it up. The Guy actually said that to my face. And he was gonna watch! To make sure I didn't get my lady germs on his manly mower, I guess.
Shout out to my boss, who told The Guy he'd personally handle the repair and then had me walk him though the entire process. Boss asked the most inane questions, grabbed the wrong tools, tried to install the part upside down (all this was on purpose.) The Guy stood there a watched for the two hours my boss dragged it out. Coulda' had it in a quarter of the time, but you know, cooties.

Male supervisor (but not MY supervisor) liked to stand above me while I was at my desk and look down the front of whatever I was wearing. Once, I moved away to a coworkers desk to help her edit a letter and pointed to a sentence on the page and said "Take it off". The male supervisor leered at me and said "Yeah, take it ALL off!" He was fired the next day for sexual harassment. Jack@ss.

Back in college while on a first date, we ran into my dates best friend. My date placed his hands on my shoulders, turned me so I was directly facing his friend, and said, "So what do you think?" His friend then started to guess my bra size. I am ashamed to say that I was so stunned that I just stood there and said nothing. Needless to say, I never went on a second date with that jerk.

A creepy stranger in his 40's came up to me on the street when I was late teens and said I look sexy... I just turned on my heels and ran as fast as I could away from him. Can't help but feel I dodged a bad one there... Guys don't ever tell a woman that she looks sexy unless you are in a relationship with her! It's just wrong on all levels.

Told me there was no point in saving for university because I was just going to end up "barefoot and pregnant anyway." Direct quote. From my father. In 1993. I have a Master's now.

My first bf r@ped me and then tried to blame the bad atmosphere on me and making me feel guilty by saying "don't you love me enough to sacrifice that little thing for me?" I promptly said no -and then he didn't speak to me for days! (I lived with him and had nowhere to move away to. So I half-heartedly stayed with him for a month or so afterwards. Not my best choice ever but I was 18 years old and did NOT want to end up on the streets, risking having to stop going to high school).

I think that is the rudest thing a person can ever do to another. Rude is a nice way of saying it. 😤

A lighter one:
I was an intern at a museum when I was in my early 30s. There was this volunteer that was at the museum each Thursday. He was an elderly man (ca. 75 years old). The first 1-2 months he made it clear that he disliked young girls that didn't know a thing about history while he was looking in my direction (he was talking to another guy at the museum). The old man never said a word to me.
UNTIL the day he figured out that I had graduated from the university and had studied religion and history. Suddenly he enjoyed having conversations with me about all sorts of things. At some point he made a comment to me about something that he thought I'd learn or come to terms with by the time I turned 30. "Sir, I'm 32...." oh, the look on that man's face 😁

When I was 20, I was sitting on a log by a river in a nature preserve in the European city where I was studying. (I'm not naming the city, because I don't want to slam it.) A guy sat down next to me and started chatting. I made brief pleasantries, but didn't express interest. He walked away for a moment, and I thought, "Good." Next thing you know, he's back with his pants down, stroking himself. He followed me through this wooded area, and it was clear he was thinking it was a good day to rape somebody. I ran for a while, then scrambled up a hill and picked up a large rock. The look on my face must have said, "Dude, you're gonna die," because he gave up and left. So yeah. That was pretty rude. Can't say I've ever done anything like that to a guy.

I really hate when people use “balls” to mean courage. I mean, what braver, jiggly little f**k sacks or a hole that spews forth blood and children? Just say “guts” or “courage”

Oh! I have another one. So I got back from my piano lesson and was waiting for my tram to get home.
This dude stood next to me, he complimented the colour from my jacket, no biggie.

Then he was like "May I kiss you?"
He had a very strong accent and my english isn't the best so I wasn't sure what he wanted.
After I understood I told him that I have a boyfriend.
I don't but in my experience this works the best to get off creepy guys.
Not with him.
He looked pissed and asked something like "Would you cheat" or "You look cheap."
I didn't understand completely and I was starting getting scared bc he didn't accepted my my boyfriend thing.
So I stayed silent.
He said something like "You want something."
I was like nope, I don't.
And he was like yes you do.
He tried to offer me some cookies but I was creeped out and got off to the next station.

I know, kinda harmless. But enough to get me creeped out.

A guy telling me he remembered who I was "Because tits like yours I'll never forget!"
Rude!!

I was working for a nightclub and one of our regular costumers, who was loved by all the ladies - he was tall and handsome, asked me out for a date. We had a great evening, he was such a gentleman. We had dinner at a fancy restaurant, we laughed a lot, we ran into some of his friends and he introduced me jokingly as his ‘future wife’. I really felt a ‘click’. It was about 22:00 when we were heading home and since it was a Friday, he asked me if I wanted to have some tea or coffee at his place and watch a movie. I said yes and 15 min later I was really comfortable at his couch with my tea & cookie when he was suddenly in front of me, really close to my face, pulled out his d*ck and said: “please suck me!”. I was in total shock, I mean, we didn’t even kiss so I didn’t think I gave him ‘the wrong idea’. The moment he saw my reaction, he started apologizing, but all I wanted is to go home.
He drove me home (about 10min) and didn’t stop apologizing, but… WEIRDO! I don’t really get why I got back in his car, luckily nothing happened.
He called & texted me multiple times after this ‘incident’, but of course I never called him back, and ignored him whenever he came over to the club (+ obviously warned my girlfriends). It’s really the weirdest twist of a great evening + also the rudest thing a guy has ever done to me.

My husband and I are both Marine Corps veterans and are members of our local American Legion. I will literally be wearing a "Woman Veteran" t-shirt (because that's all they make) and the older members will go up to my husband and thank him for his service. My husband is awesome and tells them "be sure to thank her, too".

Like all women on here, there are sadly too many events to choose from. So, I'll choose a lighter one where I had the best comeback.
A few times when a man has hit on me, I've responded 'I have a boyfriend' and they have responded something like 'well where is he', some comment completely dismissing the fact I'm involved, not that it matters. I'm sure a few women have experienced similar issues.
On one occasion I had walked into a tobacco shop. I had been there a few times, and every time the cashier would flirt with me or compliment me, and I made it a point to mention my boyfriend casually. The lady time I went in there, he was finishing cashing me out and he asked me "Would you like to meet me after my shift?" I told him 'No, I have a boyfriend'. He then asked 'can I touch you?'. First of, I already declined to meet up, so you think I would be like 'sure no prob.'?!? Anyway, I told him firmly no. He asked why and I said 'I'm not interested and I'm in a relationship.' Then he says with a cheeky grin "Well, I don't see your boyfriend here, so... ' 😡 That's not the first time a guy has responded similarly after being told no, but it was the first time I decided to be bold, and I doubled down. I look him in the eye, and say completely deadpan
" Ya know, I you bring up an interesting point. Perhaps I will blow you." Suddenly he's like a deer in headlights and didn't know how to respond. I asked him if that was the response he was expecting, he started to try to roll it back and stutter something but I told him" When someone says no, it's f***ing no. Stop being a pig and treat women with some respect!" And I left. It was awesome!

One of my colleagues told me that I don't belong in my working field. I'm a female security guard and (not to brag) I'm a pretty good one and have been working in this field for 15 years, never had any complaints and have been promoted at both of the jobs I have had for these 15 years.
He is just a grumpy oldschool man who thinks that women can't do "manly" jobs and vice versa.

he raped me i am trans and then when he found out he tryed to kill me