Hey Pandas, AITA For Expressing Disappointment In My Husband's Actions On Mother's Day?

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I am (F35) married to my DH (dear husband, M39), with two children (F11 and M8). As many of you know, it was Mother’s Day in the UK this weekend.

I do not think I ask for much, this and a nice hot bubble bath would be ideal.

So I wake up, everyone asleep but then DH states he will get up and make me a cup of tea, I get dressed and go downstairs, I realise the house is a mess so I spend the next two hours cleaning this to realise DH has gone back to sleep so I make my own cup of tea and sit and watch some of my reality TV show. And hours later everyone is still asleep, so I wake them up as it is now 11am.

I make them breakfast and then my DD comes and gives me a box. I had paid for a mystery Mother's Day box which my DD (dear daughter) hid so I would have something to open on Mother's Day.

Now I know I shouldn’t moan as I know I am very lucky to have children on a day like this. However, I feel like I should be less harsh on my DH. When he woke up he took my DD out – granted they didn’t come home until 8pm, he had took his mother shopping, bought her lunch, flowers and dinner, he had brought her a new Pandora bracelet and some new clothes she wanted. I understand this is his mother, but I didn’t see my DD all day, me and my DS (dear son) played some games and took the dog for a walk.

The day before we had discussed my husband going to the shop to purchase some scones and cakes so we could do a homemade afternoon tea as he “forgot” to book one, however when he did return home, he returned back with pizza, with the kids' toppings on, nothing I liked. I smiled and ate some thanking him for buying it so I didn’t have to cook. He was telling me how much his mother enjoyed her Mother's Day and then put on some rubbish TV thing he wanted. I laid down and ended up falling asleep.

I turned to him in tears and said when its Father's Day I always go above and beyond for him to ensure he has a lovely day and he basically has a day where everything is about him, and how I think he was selfish for not making me a cup of tea or spending the day with me, I then said how I obviously don’t mean much to him compared to his mother and then I went to bed and we have not spoken since – Was ITA?