Hey Pandas!
I am a teenage female living in Australia and I have a problem.
I'm not sure if I'm the one in the wrong or my mum is, and I'd like some advice.
Maybe a year ago, my mum started to be a hypocrite sometimes. Like, she told me not to talk in a movie, then talking herself. Just little things, things I could deal with.
Until I asked for some help with my maths homework.
See, I'm not the best at maths and the unit we were doing was her speciality. So I asked for some help.
She started explaining things in way too much detail and I couldn't keep up, she was also telling me the exact opposite of what my teacher taught us. When I tried to explain that she mimicked me. Like the "blah blah blah, mahh" type of teasing. Keep in mind that me and my siblings get in massive trouble of calling each other stupid, hitting each other gently and mimicking or making each other. So her doing that was way out of line with the house rules.
She didn't care.
When I looked at her shocked and upset, she looked back at me with a blank, clueless expression on her face. When I tried to grab my Chromebook and leave she got mad and told me to stop being so disrespectful and that I could leave for school when she was done.
Other incidents like that happened, she'd go back on her word and she'd be a hypocrite.
For me, this is manageable but upsetting and it makes me not want to be around her.
But she keeps insisting we have a great relationship and that I can talk to her about anything. I can't!
Any advice would be excellent, but please, am I the A-hole?
#1
No, you’re not. You’re growing up and finding your parent is human. Ask her again to explain the Maths for you, if she can’t do it in a way you understand, just leave it and speak to your teacher.
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#2
No 🥺
2points
#3
Nta. This is gaslighting. I could relate to your experience so much as a child. Your mother does not have a ‘great relationship’ with you if she gaslights you and doesn’t allow you to experience natural human emotions, and slams the ‘YoU’eR bEiNG dIsReSpEcTfUl’ card. I hope this helped, and if you need more support, please comment - I really want to help.
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