Hey Pandas, Has Anyone Ever Been Called Out For Being Wrong Before You Knew What You'd Done?

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Ill go first year 8 I'm quite a bullied kid and had been jumped multiple times but this one time the whole year circles me and 6 girls come forward absolutely s******g myself and this one girl grabs my arm pushes me towards the bush and yells RUN I bolted through the bush got to the front of maths got ragged screamed for help as they kicked the c**p out of me i had to make my own escape this was in school at break I've still got scars and the girls got lunch detention. Still don't know what i did?

I was a member of a sailing club during studies. First two years I had fun there, but the last year I was feeling more and more uncomfortable with some of the other members. I also noticed that one person didn't like me but I thought that was just their personal problem. Then one night I get a text from that person saying I was banished from attending the clubs next event. I was shocked. I had no idea what I had done wrong. I called the person and they told me how I was being rude all the time and made others feel uncomfortable. Afterwords I realized that I indeed had been behaving badly in some situations, and also realized why. I had been sexually harassed by multiple men in the club so I didn't want to be nice to them bc that would make me an easy target. I didn't realize my behavior was affecting also others.

Long story short I wish that the person feeling uncomfortable bc of my behavior would have told me that at once, not weeks later. I truly had no idea. This situaton has left me traumatized and I still often fear that I am behaving badly without knowing and everyone secretly hates me.