Hey Pandas, How Did You Realize Your "Friends" Were Not Really Your Friends? (Closed)

When I stopped having extra money, I stopped hearing from them. What a strange coincidence!

Found out her dad died 2 months after the funeral

They just suddenly stopped talking to me? Didn't even explain what happened, they were just gone. I don't blame them I don't like myself either lol

I found out that they were talking about me behind my back. They were talking about how weird I was and why they didn't want to be my friend anymore. I was really only friends with one girl in the group and the rest didn't like me at all.

I moved to a new state not to long ago and my so called friends said we will call you every day we love you girl.( I mean I did not expect them to call me every day) But any ways out of all my friends only one stays in contact with me sometimes two. But that's not that bad what is bad is the girl I thought I was closest to has not called me once my mom had to make me call her on my b-day and all she said was happy b-day and then hung up. But I guess I would rather have one good friend rather than 100 fake friend. p.s they also told people my secrets once I left.

She slept with my husband

When they decided to make a group chat about me and how ugly I looked, how fat I was. Oh and they would’ve gotten away with it if they hadn’t added me to it.
It was so much fun to invite them to my 10th birthday and then get them drunk on carbonated fruit juice
And then the next day, they are talking about my epic party (which was somehow dubbed the girls party of the 4th grade) I drop the bomb
“Oh, so that group chat where you hate on me was all a joke? Or dare I say, you just wanted to go to the best party of the year? FRICK YOU! FRICK YOU ALL!”
Got in trouble for saying that but that afternoon, I decided to spam screenshots of their group chat hating on me to all the 4th graders with texting abilities. They were so popular until then.

My old friend ghosted me. Completely ignored me and her other friends to impress a crush. Didn't respond to any texts, didn't sit by us at lunch, and didn't even partner up for school projects. The crush was a "Cool kid" and was very rude too, so a relationship with him wouldn't have been healthy. I miss her, but I have to accept that she would do this again for her new crush and that our friendship wasn't meant to be.

I was 9 long story - short I never wanted someone in a group brought it into school I got banne

When I discovered my "best friend" of 35 years had given her neighbor the hundreds of dollars worth of gifts I had given her.

When she sent the text “stfu. You literally are not funny. youre the only one in the group laughing like you’re so funny it makes me want to end myself” after i sent hot cross buns…

When I was about 12, I was getting bullied by a particularly mean girl in middle school. It was really vicious. I had cigarettes burned into my back, my locker was set on fire and I was made fun of. All for the crime of babysitting a boy named Nelson who happened to have the same name as this girl's boyfriend. So she thought I was talking about him- even when I explained I wasn't. After about a year of this, my 'friends' decided they didn't want to hang out with me publicly anymore because I was being bullied so bad that they were afraid it was going to start happening to them, too. Can you imagine being bullied so badly that people don't want to be near you in fear of it happening to them? It was so crazy. I was so hurt. I eventually moved away and got some new friends but what a nightmare it was.

After years of helping everyone of "my friends" while I was healthy and had the ability to contribute to their emergency needs. BUT, when I get the news of being ill and I cannot help myself with needs or repairs, moving, homeless after hurricanes.
Well, to di and myself, all those friendships were not there. We still help others, and only those, tried and true, friends.

After hanging out with them, my one actual friend who stayed later than me told me they spent the entire time afterwards making fun of me. When I asked someone else about it, they said “oh yeah they always do that” and went on to explain all the things they’ve said about me and others. My one real friend and I immediately distanced ourselves from them and haven’t talked to them since graduation.

My friend started bullying little kids

She tried to convince me and my sister, not once, but twice to kill ourselves. She said something like "oh come on it won't hurt or anything, your being a sissy". Oh yeah, and did I mention that this happened in elementary school 😶

When the word epilepsy or seizure came up, they no longer had interest in being my friend.

When they claimed to my now ex-boyfriend that I didn't love them anymore. I don't know why, she never even liked him. Oh! And is it funny that she told me that he cheated (he didn't) on a day I was sick.
She also got her dad to put me on the same team as her when I tried out for softball. I quit first practice when I found out.

One girl I was friends with, she tried making me choose between her and another friend. She was very manipulative. I kept the other friend, who I am still friends with to this day, and stopped being friends with her.

I realized that my friends were just people 'I' liked to socialize with- they did't feel the same, and we mutually distanced.