It sounds like you are in a situation that you cannot change, so you have to learn to live with it, as hesrtbreaking as it is. It may be a good idea for your guys to get some counseling, together and separately, to work through all of these issues. Broken marriages, infidelity, and custody battles are not things that you come out of unscathed (speaking from experience on all fronts there) and it takes a freat deal of time and effort to heal from those wounds. It is not an easy road to travel and you need to learn how to lean on one another again.
I hope that the two of you can work through this and come out on the other end of it. It is going to take work, but it can be done.
I hope that the two of you can work through this and come out on the other end of it. It is going to take work, but it can be done.