Hey Pandas, If You Could Tell 13-Year-Old You Anything, What Would It Be? (Closed)

remember your 13th birthday party and all the people that came? you're not friends anymore. "e" ignores you in the hallways after you developed a crush on them at the beginning of this year, and you broke things off with "a" and "l" because they've changed. you've changed too, but don't worry. "j" and "s" have become your best friends, and you're still friends with "m", and you've discovered this neat lil website that may very well save your life. it's going to be awful but you are going to make it through. just two more years until you go to a really cool high school with none of those awful people you've known forever. you will get through.

Hey dumbass, you know that feeling of horridness every time you think of how you look feminine? That’s called dysphoria. Also, you’re nonbinary.

Dear 13 year old me,

you’re good enough as you are

Don’t trust your family. It turns out they never cared about your feelings and hurt you the most.

Well I am 13, so I’m telling myself that I will not forget anything that has happened to me.

Pay attention in school and work harder if you don't understand ask.
Stop worrying about trying to be popular or cool it's never gonna happen just be you.
Stop trying to compete with your best friend the only person you need to be better than is the person you are right now.
You're not fat don't let anyone tell you any different. You are a beautiful girl with your whole life in front of you live it well.

Dear 13 year old me,

Embrace your differences, don't think of them as disabilities!
Don't be afraid to make memories. Yes, some of them you may want to forget, but most will be amazing and you'll treasure them forever.
Don't procrastinate any longer than you have to on stuff that matters.
Don't be afraid to push things or ask for stuff. You may get a 'no' or lose a friend but it's way better in the long run.
Don't for heavens sake, pick those spots, you idiot!

Love,

A sad little Quokka (19)

Cut your bangs, kid! what do you need all that forehead for???
stop being such an attention seeker, sheesh like come on!

Dear 13 year old me,
You should stop being such a whiny attention seeking drama queen
Yours sincerely, me

Hey 13 y/o me,
Please stop dressing like you raided the lost and found bin at the gym. Grow out your hair, and put it up from time to time. Also please don't ruin our social life.
I'm begging you
-14 y/o you

don’t let people take advantage of you. toxic friends DO give you a sense of validation, but it’s all fake. don’t keep forgiving and forcing yourself to smile. they’re no good and will only cause you to end up hating yourself and regretting everything you did. put your s**t together, asap

i am 13 lol so i’ll tell my 12 year old self not to care so much what other people think!

Dear younger me,

I'm not going to tell you what stuff to change. You wouldn't listen anyway.
Just look at me now.
Look at my job and my friends and my dog and who I am.
Know that it's going to be okay. You can't mess this up.
You're going to be stupid, and that's fine. It will be hard, but I don't regret the person you set me up to be.
Thanks for always holding out for what you believed in. I know they used to call you rebellious, but now they call me strong.

Love you elf-heart.
- Older Lil Miss Hobbit

That life may be scary and confusing and you will go through many ups and downs, but you will be okay. Believe in your abilities more and you don't need to be a size small to be pretty. It's okay to abandon the beliefs that you grow up with in order to become your own person. Last but not least, the adults are just as confused and scared as you are.

listen to the Beatles and life will be good

stop the fricken scratchin mate it aint good and it gonna hurt in the morning
-from you in the morning
p.s it still hurts

It gets a whole lot better, and also a whole lot worse. You get to figure out a way to be happy with yourself, and figure out a lot about your gender and sexuality. However, I'm gonna say this. Don't pick up the scissors. Don't let your intrusive thoughts win out. The scars on your arms aren't worth seeing what being cut with a scissors feels like. Also, you get to cut your hair short, and that really unlocks a lot of feelings for you.

Stay single. Jesus christ, stay single.

They ALL sucked. Your best years were completely wasted on them. Find yourself, learn to love yourself without a crutch and be free.

Also, don't have kids.

Quit trying to be your older sister, just be yourself. Remember that you ARE a great person, you don't need to impress anyone - guys or gals. Things will get better when your family moves. Being smart in school now doesn't mean you can coast. Especially once you move! Follow your passions and make your own choices! Don't marry the 1st time - neither of you are ready. Lastly, learn money management! You're going to need it later in life.

hey kiddo- im gonna start by saying i'm proud of you. i know a lot of people don't say it but i mean it. keep being that sweet kid that you are. don't let someone take that kindness and hope from you. it'll make your life so much more difficult. keep that in mind for a long time. but i also want to say, find yourself. that doesn't mean find labels for everything regarding gender and sexuality. it means just chill. be yourself. you can be proud of who you are but you have to know who you truly are first. you don't need microlabels to be happy. be careful when you get into relationships too. i know you're young and most relationships don't seem real. but a year from now you'll meet someone who you'll be with for two years. she'll break you. but keep that sweet mentality for me okay? the world needs people more like you. it's okay. just keep pushing you've got this.