Hey Pandas, What Are Some Of The Most Important Things You Learned In Therapy? (Closed)

Weeds break through concrete and your buried trauma will rise up to the surface when you least expect it and be even more traumatic a second time when you have to actually deal with it. So deal with shiz as it happens so it's dealt with instead of buried.

Ooof.
Saying things out loud carries more weight than thinking them to yourself. (i.e. therapy is worth it)
The fact that you are a positive, functioning member of society is a tremendous accomplishment.
It's okay to feel heartbroken that your parents didn't/couldn't love you, even as an adult.
Ask for help. There are good people that will help if you ask. It's hard and humbling. Just pay it forward.

I just ended therapy with my first therapist, she didnt really help much, but one time she told me to think about the things i like in a relationship. since then ive done something that has helped me through my toxic relationships and my current healthy relationship right now as well as my friendships on my own.

Focus on your values you try to find in a person. If you try to list the things you like in a person, it might be hard, trust me, it is hard. you can try to contribute those to yourself so you can have more self-confidence, as well as look for those traits in others, obviously no ones gonna have exactly every single one of the traits you have listed, but really you should think about that sometimes, and how they make you feel, how they treat you compared to how you treat them.

Exercise is really helpful when getting out of depression. Set small goals at first that you can accomplish..

We are all victims of victims.

That a lot of problems can be done away with by practice and behaviour, and that sometimes the talking cure just reinforces your false beliefs/narrative or "script" about yourself. I'm a big fan of CBT.

I think that we’re a lot less alone in what we struggle with then we realize.

That realization of just how I am not the main character and how many other people are hurting, really has encouraged my heart to become a Biblical counselor. I would love to work with especially young women who have been trafficked and exploited. There’s so much darkness in this world. But Jesus is the light. I want to share how He freed me and love on the hurting.

So yeah, basically therapy made me realize how broken our world is and encouraged my heart to not run from others’ pain but come alongside them. Be there for them. Love on them. Listen to them. And tell them about the hope that only Jesus can give.

We are never alone in this. ❤️

I didn't do anything wrong. It was my mother's fault. She kept me isolated so I didn't realize everybody wasn't like that.