Hey Pandas, What’s A Red Flag People Often Ignore Because It Looks “Sweet”? (Closed)

I think the jealousy thing gets played off as cute in the media but it can be really toxic depending on the situation. Trust is very important.
I have never understood the need to "make them jealous" or the "aww you're jealous?" but that's just a personal opinion.

Being a mama's boy. While it is sweet that they love their mother, some take it too far and don't give any time to their significant or will let the mother in law win every time, despite the circumstances.

Children being forced to kiss or hug adults when it is clear they don't want to do so. Children have the absolute right NOT to have someone in their personal space if they wish.....

I worry when one partner can't keep their hands off the other, so they are seldom more than an arm's length apart. Sure, newly-formed couples are touchy-feely, but they must give each other enough space to be people in their own right.

Jealousy. At first it can come off as being protective. Like, "I am worried about you with your friends, they drink" and soon it becomes "I don't want you to see your friends".

One partner too dependent on the other. Becomes a burden in the end.

Apologies. Don't get me wrong, a heartfelt apology is a very good thing. But in situations of ab**e, a seemingly heartfelt apology can be part of the ab**e cycle. A narcissist will apologize when they go too far and fear they are going to lose someone who is useful to them. They'll apologize, buy you gifts, etc until they get you back, then it's right back to negative behavior. People who ab**e their spouse will apologize so sweetly that you'd think they'd never hurt anyone again, until they do.

Love-bombing.

All of a sudden, somebody you don't know very well starts being overly nice to you: offering help, making lots of compliments, giving expensive gifts, treating you like a royalty. Something feels off but your ego is inflated and falls for it, and you ignore the red flag.

Once you have developed a cognitive blind-spot for them, you are trapped. That person can now use and manipulate you at will, and to your dismay, they soon turn out to be toxic and a*****e. And it takes time (often years) until you manage to set yourself free.

Perhaps there are "harmless" love-bombing; but honestly, I've never seen one.

It is sweet when your partner buys you a present, then you unwrap it only to find you have been given a Chinese National flag.

when people stay near you to "Protect you"

Being dismissive of your opinions and tastes to the point where they're being borderline insulting.

Over grooming and obession with appearance and other non-substantive stuff like having a conversation or even having a grasp on life when you finally agree to meet with them. Then finding your local hang outs and always being there.