Hey Pandas, What’s Something You Wish Never Happened, Or Wish That Had Been Done Differently? (Closed)

NEVER been raped by stepfather, ages 6 - 12, NEVER married my now deceased, husband! He was just as damaging (almost), as my ex-stepfather. God, the things I would change!! :(

There are two things I wished NEVER happened!

RACISM and SEXISM!

I know it is impossible to change, but my parents divorce.

I want to change some of the politics in certain countries to prevent certain leaders from gaining power and eradicate a lot of wars that were needlessly started in the name of politics.

I wish I either hadn’t gone to a fancy Art school, dropped out after my sophomore year, or skipped college altogether. I’ve been a machinist for over 15 years now, and I wished I’d known trade school or an apprenticeship were an option. I have a learning disability and not everyone learns well in a traditional school setting. I went to college because it was what was expected, not because it was what I wanted, and I wasted years of my life and a lot of money being miserable and thinking I was a failure.

The fact that my adopted daughter’s unborn brother was killed by abortion. This has hurt all of us but especially her. When she found out (as a teen) she was devastated, and now that she is older it still hasn’t hasn’t lessened the underlying grief. No matter how great life has turned out to be, adopted kids will always suffer from that abandonment they feel about there being someone out there that didn’t want them. To have that same person not only abandon your sibling but actually kill him has got to be a source of great pain.

I wish I would have said something when my best friend told me he was going to kill himself. 27 years later and I still feel the guilt.

Trump

All the times people hurt me in my younger years of my life. I wish I had stood up for myself lots of times but I felt weak and didn't.

I would probably wish I didn’t lie to my therapists. If I didn’t, I would probably be recovered by now.

One night when my brother and i where teens (i was 17 and he had just turned 16 and gotten his license) he was a really good driver and very responsible. Anyway earlier that night he had wanted to go to a movie together, I was about to go out with my friends and said no thanks. He went himself. He never made it back. He got killed in a car accident involving a drunk driver. Guys, just don’t drink then drive, wonderful, innocent lives are shortened. I would change what happened to him of coarse. But even if I couldn’t, I wish I would have gone with him. We would have probably both been killed, but at least I could have spent a little more time with him. Rest is peace Isaac… (in case you didn’t know his name means laughter. He was the joy of our family.)

Telling this once person I was bisexual and then the whole 7th grade knows now and I'm pansexual now anyway

The deaths of two siblings. The grief is unbearable so days.

My marriage.

I wish I never said "I want to die".

01/22/20 I said those words and since then everything has fell. I don't see "black or white" so I can acknowledge the fact that it did help in some ways. -I got diagnosed with stuff and that will help in the future etc.- But I wish I could take those words back because right now while typing this I'm sitting on the living room couch, lonely and overthinking, not happy because my family is out having ice cream and I'm just stuck here drowning in sadness and nothing. I haven't left the house in over 2yrs and I just want to go out and have fun but everything just sucks right now. I wish it never happened. (I could ramble on for hours about everything but yeah... :/)

I wish I had been honest with my ex boyfriend before he relapsed and overdosed.
We were heroin addicts for 7years together; completely co-dependent on each other for the life we lived.
We had tried several times over the years to get clean together but always failed. I finally decided I needed to get clean and we weren’t going to be able to do it together so I left. He was gonna be gone for a day so I called my mom, packed my things, took our dog and left. I called his brothers to go pick him up from 5 states away because I knew without me he wouldn’t make it.
I got clean and eventually so did he. A few months later we got back in touch and he had cleaned up too. We were both moving on etc. I started dating a guy that I had known for a few years, he was really controlling and forced me to cut all communication off with my ex. Two weeks after I blocked him, my ex relapsed and died. His brother told me years later that his entire reason for getting clean, going back to school etc was to get me back and when I cut him off he couldn’t handle it.
I know it’s not my fault but I wish I had told the new bf to f*ck off (only lasted a few months before I knew he bad in an entirely different way). I wish I had at least been honest with the ex about dating someone else, why I couldn’t keep talking to him etc.
I’m almost 6 years clean now but I still think of him every single day and wish I could have just been honest with him.