Hey Pandas, What's Something Your Parents Said To You That Hurt And Still Sticks With You?

I was told I was the reason my parents marriage was failing when I was younger so many times. I've changed into the ideal child for them and it's still failing it seems I was never the problem.

This was a couple years ago. My dad and I were having an argument. There were raised voices and yelling. My aunt said oh won’t she just shut up already (meaning me) and my dad said if I had a gun I would shoot her and kill her right now, that would make her shut up. I was 10. It’s been a while now and I still remember that. The look on face seemed like he really would have. I’ve told my mom and she doesn’t remember. He says it never happened and I’m just lying. Buuut anywho, I’m still alive so he hasn’t done it yet.

I remember my dad saying during an argument that I was very selfish and horrible. Another time, out of the blue he said I'm hard/difficult to love and man does that s**t hurt so bad my god. So now I think I'm a horrible, mean and nasty human being that doesn't deserve to exist. ti's all peachy.

well, when my dad was really bad, I had a breakdown and my mom basically said "you cant save people who don't want to be saved" and that hurt.
or when I was 7 and my dad told me o could never trust anyone no matter what

More so something he didn’t say.
I got my first A+ at school ever, but so did my younger sister. I told my dad first he told my sister he was proud of her. Not me. Never been me

“ I should have sat on your head the day you were born” head it for a good portion of my childhood.

"I'm tired of being a parent." - My mom when I was just 15.

I'm on the app, so mine is too long. It's in the comments section.

Well, transgender is not exactly bad, but it's something we don't like because trans people think that God made a mistake in creating their gender, or they've been in certain situations where they feel that they aren't the gender they were assigned at birth and they try change it to match the gender they feel like they are. And it's wrong because God does not make mistakes with us and whatever gender you were born as is the one you were meant to be, period. Why do you ask? -my mom
for context i had told her that there was a trans student at school(never said it was me) and asked her why transgender was bad. thankfully, shes much more accepting after she revealed she knew about me being trans about 13 days ago

Allow me to preface this by saying my mom is great and I love her, but she is TERRIBLE at handling panic attacks.

I’m having a terrible panic attack, freaking out, can’t move.

“JUST GET THE F*CK AWAY FROM ME! GO AWAY! I CAN’T BE NEAR YOU WHEN YOU’RE LIKE THIS! F*CKING GO AWAY!”

We visited our dad every summer for a few weeks (shared custody?) I was 10 and my brother was 8. Dad bought typical kid food and snacks and I saw the 2 pack of chips and said to my brother, "Look, a bag for you and one for me." My dad yells at me, "Why do you have to be so selfish!?" That has always stayed with me. I think I said this teasing that we wouldn't be fighting over them. Dad was one scary dude.

I told my mom about my near four attempts, two of them very recent and just one day between. She f*****g mocked me. I tried and failed.

This is hardly the most traumatic thing in this thread, just a reminder that words can stick and parents should avoid backhanded compliments.
When I was young - maybe age 8-10 or so - I forget - I cleaned my room and tried to do a really good job.
My mom: "You did a nice job cleaning your room" (me - happy feeling). Her next sentence: "It's too bad you can't keep it that way" (me - happy feeling gone).

Like I said - it's not a big deal. But I'm in my 60s so it's been half a century and I still remember it. Be careful with your words parents.
Full disclosure - on the whole my mom was pretty awesome. Always frank and honest with me, taught me various skills, taught me to treat people kindly even if they were not the same as me and so on. Possibly that's why the few times she said something hurtful stuck more - because she rarely did.

I remember growing up we went on vacation to see my cousin's. I took my shoes off by the door to not track mud in. We were getting ready to go out for dinner and I couldn't find my shoes as they weren't by the door anymore. Well my dad got tired of waiting and mad that I couldn't keep up with my shoes and I ended up getting a whipping before my mom brought in my shoes that she had moved. Never an apology for the whipping. Never and admission that he was wrong. This has stuck with me almost 50 years.

Pair that with never hearing be was proud of me, loved me, gave me a hug and well you get the picture.

Overall he was a good dad. Always encouraged us to do what we wanted and supported us in those efforts. Always there to help out in a pinch. Always had food on the table.

But this, this sticks with me.