40 People Share What Horrible Things That Happen In Society Are Completely Legal

Bored Panda reached out to redditor u/custom_dream and they were kind enough to answer our questions and share their opinion on the discussion that they started.

When asked what the inspiration for their thread was, the internet user told us that it was "just curiosity."

"I am very interested in watching online videos of people committing crimes and being caught and arrested/indicted for them," they explained to us.

"It was appealing to me to find out activities that look illegal but aren't," they said.

Meanwhile, we were interested in getting the thread author's opinion on what they believe should be changed in society as soon as possible.

"Specifically the US society needs to be more tolerant of different opinions," u/custom_dream told Bored Panda.

They added that they believe the American people should also "apply more critical thinking to everyday life and politics."

The redditor was realistic about the ability to create a perfectly fair society in the future.

"In theory it is possible. Whether we can achieve that right now in the US with current conditions, I believe that to be very unlikely," they said.

When you start thinking about all the numerous inequalities that plague society, you can easily end up feeling demotivated, disempowered, or drowning in anger. And while these reactions are perfectly normal, constantly living with them could negatively affect your quality of life. So it becomes important to shift your perspective a bit.

Try to reframe things so that you focus on what you can change instead of constantly obsessing about everything that’s wrong with the world. Taking action and making the world better one small step at a time is miles better than just venting about unfairness.

As psychologist Sherrie Bourg Carter, Psy.D., put it in a blog post on Psychology Today, viewing yourself as a victim isn’t helpful because it keeps you in the past and makes you feel powerless. “Bad things happen every day, but humans can be quite resilient. By stepping out of the victim mindset and viewing yourself as a survivor, you may find it easier to move forward and play an active role in creating a new outlook for yourself,” she says.

It’s also healthy to be aware of the nuances in life, instead of seeing everything as purely black or white. Yes, there is a lot of unfairness in society that can be incredibly frustrating. However, it is not just doom, gloom, and evil that you’ll find in the world. Positive and negative events constantly interweave in society.

“Even if nothing negative is happening in your own life, tragic, depressing stories are rampant in the media,” writes Bourg Carter. “That's not to suggest that you should bury your head in the sand and ignore current events, or pretend that bad things don't happen. They clearly do. However, in reality, what we hear and see on the news and the unfairness that happens in our personal lives are typically outliers in a world of mostly positive, kind, and pleasant interactions.”

The psychologist urges people to think of the times when others were supportive and kind to them. She also points out that good experiences often outweigh the bad for most people, however, it is “more common to dwell on the bad than to celebrate the good.”

As we’ve mentioned on Bored Panda before, many people are raised to believe that life is perfectly fair or, well, at least that it should be. However, no matter how much we strive, we cannot change the world in a heartbeat. Real change takes generations of dedicated work to achieve, and you have to be realistic about this. Instead of thinking just about fairness, it might be a good idea to focus on becoming more resilient so that we can weather what life throws at us better.