Woman Refuses To Take Accountability For Husband’s Affair, Gets Called Out By Netizens

Should I stay or should I go? It's a question many might ask themselves if their spouse has an affair. Studies have found that around 60%-75% of partners do reconcile after infidelity, but not all of these relationships last.

One woman was devastated when she found out her husband of 10 years had cheated on her. The couple started therapy and her husband has taken full responsibility for the affair. Their therapist has set a rule that neither can take the moral high ground for the next 3 months, and they each need to own their parts. But the woman says this is unfair because he's the one in the wrong. Netizens have given her a harsh reality check.

A whopping 40% of marriages experience infidelity. That's almost half... And those are only the people who admit to cheating, so the figure is probably higher. The findings come from 25 years of research by a psychiatrist called Dr. Scott Haltzman.

On a more positive note, Haltzman reveals in his book "The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity" that more than half of American marriages survive an affair. But doing so involves hard work from both partners, and ideally a good amount of therapy.

She adds that these couples also don't perpetuate conflicts, assign blame, or inflict shame upon one another. "They put their weapons and defences down," she says.

In her experience, the therapist says those who refuse to do the above things inevitably find themselves on a path to emotional exhaustion, hopelessness, and ultimately, failure.

According to Merchant, infidelity is only one 'relationship exit,' which is basically an escape hatch we use when our relationship becomes challenging and we don't want to confront the issues head-on. Other exits include working long hours, spending too much time on our phones, and prioritizing children, family, or friends over the relationship.

The expert says we take these exits to avoid conflict, intimacy, and vulnerability. "In working through your affair, you must identify all your exits," she advises. "So, your partner’s relationship [exit] was an affair, what was yours?"

Merchant says both partners need to be able to take responsibility for their roles in the lead-up to the affair, and must work together towards rebuilding trust.