Man Demands Wife Stop Breastfeeding Their Baby In Front Of His Mates, Is Told To ‘Shut Up’

Depending on where you are, breastfeeding is a sensitive subject, but the one place a young mother should feel safe and comfortable is her own home. So being told to not do it even in one’s own house by their partner might be cause for concern.

A woman asked the internet for advice after she had an argument with her husband over breastfeeding in front of his friends. Readers debated his demands and gave OP some suggestions. Bored Panda reached out to OP via Reddit and will update the story when she gets back to us.

As extreme as it might sound, the husband’s behavior here veers into controlling territory very quickly. After all, the child needs to be fed and OP is literally in her own home. Where else would she breastfeed the baby? The husband's concern, interestingly, doesn’t seem to be based on anything but some externalized insecurities.

Controlling behavior, after all, is a pretty big red flag, something that should be avoided. Unfortunately, manipulators are often good at hiding or masking this behavior until the other person has “locked into” the relationship.

After all, based on OP’s statements, the friends did not seem bothered and she didn’t feel uncomfortable. The only person who took offense was the husband. While we will never know exactly why, it’s not too hard to work out some possibilities. First and foremost, he might believe that his wife breastfeeding will somehow “tempt” his friends.

This is a very weird thing to think about your wife who is currently feeding your baby, particularly if he is literally the only one with an issue. The fact that he would look at his breastfeeding wife and immediately sexualize her is very strange. Even worse, the idea that his friends would suddenly be attracted to her and this putting their relationship at risk has to come from a place of deep insecurity.

Having an attractive partner is, generally, seen as a good thing, but if a person is overcome with insecurity, they might spend a good part of the relationship worried that the person they married is about to replace them. This is ugly and pretty toxic, and we can see exactly how it plays out when the husband starts making unnecessary demands.

All in all, this does seem like an entirely pointless conflict, as breastfeeding in private should be entirely normalized. The husband, by acting controlling, is just revealing that he looks at this situation and immediately sexualizes it. Even if this is just how he feels, which is already something he should work through, there is no need for him to start controlling his wife’s body. After all, every relationship will have disagreements, but there are healthy ways to resolve them and there are deeply unhealthy ways to do it.

The fact that OP had to get a second opinion online is quite telling of just how persistent the husband's attempts at control are. Unfortunately, through persistence, rhetorical tricks and plain old hostility, manipulators can and do batter people down until they think they are themselves to blame. This is not behavior anyone should put up with, but he has pressured her into thinking he might be right. Fortunately, netizens set the record straight and called out the husband’s behavior.