We always hear how the wedding day is one of the most magical days that a person has throughout their life. And for many folks, this tale turns out to be true when they experience it.
Today's couple was no exception. Well, until their photos came and the husband started spitting out some comments. They made the wife rethink everything, from their wedding preparations to the party and even the marriage itself.
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We often hear how the wedding day is one of the best days of a person's life
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It was like that for this couple too, until one of them decided to ruin the memories of it
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It all started crumbling down when their wedding photos came
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The man showed no interest in the pics of the bride, which seemed odd
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Then he started making other comments, which changed the woman's perspective on his views about their celebration
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This made the woman spiral and wonder whether she was too sensitive or if he was not sensitive enough
One day, the OP and her husband were looking through recently received wedding photos. They were doing it for the first time, so it was really exciting.
Among the photos, there were quite a lot of those with the bride and her bridesmaids getting ready. Since the husband didn’t see any of that before, she thought he would be eager to do so now. But when they came up, he just skipped past them without looking.
When she asked him to look, he started complaining that there were so many photos of this process and that she was “really playing up to the camera.” This was a weird thing to say, as he knew that was far from the truth – in reality, the woman was rather awkward around the camera. Plus, he said that for him it seemed that the photographer seemed to focus too much on her.
Besides these comments, before the wedding, he also made some weird ones, like complaining that she got a bridal suite, while he didn’t get a groom's one, that the whole wedding seemed to be “all about her,” and stuff like that.
Later, when the woman showed the photos to her family, and they asked him what he thought of his bride’s dress, he mumbled that it was “just a dress.” This, combined with all of his previous comments, deeply cut the woman. Basically, it just tainted her memories of the wedding overall.
Some people she has spoken to about this said that he’s just “being a man” and not viewing the wedding as preciously as she does. As this Reddit post points out, this is just a generalization.
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Granted, generalizations come from real-life examples – some men actually do not like weddings, for one reason or another. But most of the time, it comes from a personal and not a gendered reason. After all, some women do not like weddings just the same.
Basically, we should always strive to stay away from any generalizations, as assuming something about a person based on one characteristic can have a dangerous impact on the relationship and on society overall. Just think about it – if you always assume that all men are wedding haters and won’t open yourself to the idea that some might not be, it might be hard to find the one you want to throw a wedding with.
Of course, sometimes assuming certain things can be just a safety measure, just as it is with disagreeing with the “not all men” argument when it comes to intimate violence. In cases like that, assuming the worst can make you more cautious about the worst-case scenario. And, sadly, we live in a world where trust has to be earned, especially when it comes to things like that.
Yet, in this story, it wasn’t about that – it was more about the stupid way the husband reacted to his wedding and bride. We’re not therapists, but even for us, it seems that it might stem from some kind of unresolved issues within. As some netizens pointed out, he doesn’t seem to even like his wife, which, besides being heartbreaking, is rather jerk-ish behavior towards her.
Do you agree that the main jerk in the story is the husband? Or do you think the wife is overreacting? Please, share all your takes in the comments!
Netizens reassured her that she wasn't too sensitive and pointed out that the man seems to simply not like his wife too much
