I ask this partially because I wonder if I'm an AH. I'm 37 but still obligated to show up to the 'family' Christmas do, which, because we've lost so many relatives, consists of my aunt, uncle, their two children (who are older than me, if that information is necessary) and previously mentioned in other posts ungrateful wife to one of the cousins.
Possible TMI, but I was violently unwell overnight and so I said that I wasn't going to Christmas lunch. Mum kicked up a stink -- as I knew she would -- saying that "I just want to spend time with you and the family!" There's nothing *wrong* with said family per se, but it's one of those cases where if the matriarch dies then there'll be no contact. I occasionally contact my aunt and my non-married cousin but if they dropped out of my life I can't say I'd notice a huge difference.
Quite frankly, I'm happy to stay home this year and I would be for every year. (I was in hospital last year, and that was bliss -- Balatro and sweet FA else. This year I think it'll be Darkest Dungeon and sweet FA else). I'd prefer to volunteer but I can't because "family~~~". I know I'm well and truly an adult and can make my own decisions but I still kinda feel bad even though this year I'm more attached to the sink than the laptop.
My own family rubbish aside. What do you guys see as your ideal Christmas? Is it spending it with loved ones or having your own peace and quiet?