It can be hard to judge how one should parent children, since every family is different, circumstances are never identical and it’s dangerous to assume that one’s preferences are always superior. However, common sense still exists regardless of what people think.
Someone asked parents to share what modern childrearing “trend” they think is downright harmful and people didn’t hold back. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own thoughts in the comments section down below.
#2
“Homeschooling” when you are in absolutely no way qualified to.
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46points
#3
“Unschooling.” And honestly, 90% of home schooling. I get it if a kid is chronically ill physically or mentally. Other than that, get them to a school with an actual curriculum and trained professionals.
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46points
#4
Over-sharing kids’ lives on social media.
Turning children into content before they can consent messes with their privacy, safety, and sense of identity........and the internet never forgets.
Turning children into content before they can consent messes with their privacy, safety, and sense of identity........and the internet never forgets.
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39points
#6
Letting kids interrupt everything because “they’re expressing themselves”.
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34points
#7
Filming your kid crying and posting it for “awareness” nah that’s just exploitation with a filter.
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33points
#9
This isn't only a modern trend but dad need to chill out with the "my daughter can't marry until she's 40" rhetoric or the "hurt my daughter and I'll end you" stuff. It's not tough to threaten a 16 year old and forbidding your daughter to ignore boys until they are not under your control is just going to set them up for unhealthy dating expectations.
I have a 16 year old daughter with a boyfriend. He's a nice kid and he treats her well. They definitely don't have a future together but I think he's a great 1st boyfriend that is really setting the tone of how she should expect to be treated.
I have a 16 year old daughter with a boyfriend. He's a nice kid and he treats her well. They definitely don't have a future together but I think he's a great 1st boyfriend that is really setting the tone of how she should expect to be treated.
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33points
#10
Not reading. Read to your kids. Read for yourself. It matters less than feeding them, but not a lot less.
31points
#11
Gentle parenting turning into no parenting like maam that child needs boundaries not a podcast.
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30points
#12
I’ve noticed this trend on the playground of parents trailing around after their kids, constantly saying “Good job! Ok now be careful! That’s right, foot goes there. Yep, just there OK now be careful! Good job! Go ahead and step right there…” Like LET YOUR KID PLAY. Let them fall, let them try, let them be scared, let them have their own wins. It’s bananas to me.
30points
#13
Nurse here-
Refusing vitamin K for your newborn. I’ve never seen an infant harmed as a result of a vitamin k shot… but I have seen one pass as a result of a brain bleed that could have been prevented with a routine vitamin K injection.
Refusing vitamin K for your newborn. I’ve never seen an infant harmed as a result of a vitamin k shot… but I have seen one pass as a result of a brain bleed that could have been prevented with a routine vitamin K injection.
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28points
#14
Homeschooling, antivax and all the non sens those tiktok moms influence each others to do.
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28points
#15
"boy mom" culture that's a combination of emotional incest and internalised misogyny.
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26points
#16
Not exposing our youths to stuff that makes them uncomfortable.
This leads to socially anxious teens, who get a panic attack from normal everyday interactions. People who are afraid of their own shadow. Youths who cannot trust that you'll get through the unpleasant experiences. .
This leads to socially anxious teens, who get a panic attack from normal everyday interactions. People who are afraid of their own shadow. Youths who cannot trust that you'll get through the unpleasant experiences. .
24points
#17
Sad beige children. Kids need colors to aid in their mental and cognitive development. Children need a childhood more than beige moms need ugly aesthetic pictures.
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22points
#18
Using your child for online content, especially disabled children. .
22points
#19
Emotional enmeshment with your kids. Your kids aren't your best friends. They are your kids.
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21points
#20
Blaming teachers for their kids' shortfalls.
Crummy teachers do exist, but most of them really are trying. Most teachers are passionate and caring, but the moment a kid's grade slips parents are way too quick to put the teacher in front of the firing squad.
It's had an absolutely mind-boggling stupid impact as well. My son is 7 and has ADHD and autism. He's generally a pretty good kid, but he's had more than a few bad days at school.
So far both his first and second grade teachers have danced around the issue when reporting bad days to us. Rather than something to the tune of "he was hitting kids at school and getting in their personal space" he was "speaking out with his hands and needed refocusing." What the heck does that even mean?
I get it. They talk like that cause they have to sugar coat everything against the Karens and Daves of the world. But those parents who refuse to accept that their kids or their own parenting skills might be the problem and just foist blame onto the first person to mention there's an issue are making teacher's jobs impossible. It's forced teachers into this weird, almost patronizing communication mode just so the bad parents don't blow up on them.
Crummy teachers do exist, but most of them really are trying. Most teachers are passionate and caring, but the moment a kid's grade slips parents are way too quick to put the teacher in front of the firing squad.
It's had an absolutely mind-boggling stupid impact as well. My son is 7 and has ADHD and autism. He's generally a pretty good kid, but he's had more than a few bad days at school.
So far both his first and second grade teachers have danced around the issue when reporting bad days to us. Rather than something to the tune of "he was hitting kids at school and getting in their personal space" he was "speaking out with his hands and needed refocusing." What the heck does that even mean?
I get it. They talk like that cause they have to sugar coat everything against the Karens and Daves of the world. But those parents who refuse to accept that their kids or their own parenting skills might be the problem and just foist blame onto the first person to mention there's an issue are making teacher's jobs impossible. It's forced teachers into this weird, almost patronizing communication mode just so the bad parents don't blow up on them.
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21points