All parents want what’s best for their kids. But raising two kids of the same age with two different career choices may be a whole new challenge on its own. One mom has recently taken to Mumsnet for advice on whether her mode of financial support for her 17-year-old daughter and 18-year-old son won't cause resentment.
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Turns out, her daughter is now undertaking a full-time apprenticeship course, and since she’s fairly independent, mom is charging her “rent/keep/petrol equivalent to 25% of her take home.” But the same doesn’t go for her son, who decided to accept university offers and start a degree there.
As you can probably guess, mom’s post titled “One at uni, one at work…” raised eyebrows and stirred a heated debate on the platform. Let's see her whole post in full right below, and be sure to share your thoughts on the whole situation in the comments.
One mom has recently taken to Mumsnet to ask how best to support her 17-y.o. and 18-y.o. children
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Turns out she charges her teen daughter rent and gives the money to her son, who decided to go to university
To see what a clinical psychologist had to say on this complex situation, Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Lise Deguire, the author of “Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor.”
Dr. Lise explained that fairness is often extremely important for children. “The perception that another sibling is favored or treated better can lead to many lasting difficulties, including poor self-image, sibling conflict, and resentment of parents.”
“On the other hand, people often deeply appreciate feeling that their parents treated all their children with equal love, care and support,” she added.
Not knowing any of the people involved in this case, Dr. Lise said she wouldn't feel comfortable predicting how they will feel about each other. “We don't know their history, or how the mother may have supported her daughter in the past. We also don't know the mother's history or how she may have supported her own parents. Perhaps there is more to the story than we know,” she explained.
Having said that, Dr. Lise added that “from this brief snapshot, I could imagine that the daughter might feel unsupported and that her vocational goals were not prioritized or valued as much as her brother's.”
The clinical psychologist hopes the family finds a way to work out the financial obligations that feel fair to all concerned.
Her post stirred a heated debate and this is what people had to comment on this whole situation
