Family members fighting over money is a tale as old as the world itself. While some can’t even begin to imagine that happening among those of their kin, in reality, no family is actually immune from disagreements over someone’s wealth.
This redditor’s family was no exception. When her mom passed away without a will, the latter’s husband got all the inheritance, promising to give half of it to the OP. Unfortunately, his words turned out to be nothing more than empty promises.
Bored Panda has reached out to the OP and she was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find her thoughts in the text below.
A person leaving wealth behind can cause troubles between family members
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This woman’s mother passed with no will, leaving the entire inheritance in the hands of her husband
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“He never deserved my mother,” the OP said, referring to her late parent’s husband
In a recent interview with Bored Panda, the OP shared that she’s seen quite a few videos on lotto winners, which was where she got the idea for her petty revenge. “I know that money is the root of all evil. It made him turn on me, so I could only hope it would make his friends turn on him,” she said.
Talking about what hurt her the most about the entire situation, the redditor opened up more about her mother and the latter’s husband. “When I saw my mom in the hospital before she passed, she seemed really upset that her husband had her credit cards and had wrecked her car. She said she was going to have nothing left when she got better.
“My mom had never known wealth, and she had no idea the amount of money she was about to get. It angers me so much that this person who stole from her purse when she was asleep, and would spend their rent money on drugs gets to have that wealth that she only dreamed of. This man who cheated on her repeatedly. This man she told me once hit her in the face with a book when she confronted him about the cheating. This man who lied to her, and took everything from her then lied to me and took everything from me.
“Not only is he keeping the money from my grandpa, but he's keeping all her belongings. Most likely he will throw anything of hers away that he can't sell. He doesn't deserve the air he breathes. He never deserved my mother,” the OP said.
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Many people haven’t created a will, despite realizing how important it is
While it seems that leaving whatever it is that you have gained or created to those that you love might make their lives easier or better, quite often it has an opposite effect and leads to broken family ties. And unfortunately, it is a situation that many people have found themselves in, even if they never believed that could happen to them.
Some sources note that there has been an increase in inheritance-related feuds reported annually since 1985. A piece in The Wall Street Journal seconds the idea that the number of disputes over family wealth has grown, pointing out that a wave of inheritance has brought a rise in lawsuits related to family assets. According to said piece, more than $84 trillion dollars in wealth has already been, or is set to be, transferred by estates between 2021 and 2045.
Unfortunately, certain valuables—be it money, real estate, or something that has immeasurable sentimental value—can make even the closest of people turn against one another. That’s why it’s crucial to try and solve, or at least discuss inheritance-related matters with your family, despite how uncomfortable it might be.
A survey carried out by LegalShield found that the vast majority of people—as much as 90% of them—understand the importance of having a will, but more than half of them don’t have one nevertheless. The main reason for postponing working on such a document reportedly is not knowing where to begin.
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Having a plan can alleviate the load at an already difficult time
It’s understandably difficult to begin working on such a document like one’s will, as it usually requires discussing the end of your own life or that of your loved one. However, leaving them without one, as the OP’s story shows, can leave them in a quite unfavorable situation. LegalShield’s survey found that nearly six-in-ten people have—or know a person who has—experienced conflict because of a lack of will.
Be it brothers cutting all ties with each other, adult children fighting their stepparents for what they believe is rightfully theirs, or grandchildren dragging their favorite cousins to court for their grandparents’ real estate – no matter the scenario, after such events, families might find it difficult—if at all possible—to recover from the damage that has already been done.
Seeking to avoid or minimize the likelihood of such scenarios, some families manage to talk things through beforehand. The Wall Street Journal reported that even though many families avoid the discussion until a health scare or other stressful life event, close to 30% have already discussed (and more than 40% are planning to do so) the matters related to the family legacy.
Needless to say, having a plan can help not only navigate the intricacies of handling the wealth that is bestowed upon the family members, but also take some weight off of them at an already difficult time. “Everyone handles grief differently, more so when money is involved,” a financial advisor at Granite Financial, Laurie Humphrey, told Investment News. “Having a specific plan in place that is legally binding and determined in advance can help to facilitate the smooth transition of assets, helping to mitigate some of the emotion that occurs during that time.”
Unfortunately, the OP wasn’t left with a will, which resulted in having to trust the word of her late mother’s husband. But when he showed that it wasn’t worth much, the redditor made sure that everyone around him knew how much he was worth himself, after he had pocketed all the inheritance that he promised to share.
In an interview with Bored Panda, she revealed that no one from said husband’s acquaintances answered her message; however, since the act of the petty revenge, she has been able to let it go. “This was my final action in this matter,” she said. “I need to let it go for my own wellbeing. The constant anger and frustration was eating me up. He's not long for this world, so all I can hope is that he gets what is coming to him. Hopefully I won't have to wait long.”
The OP revealed more details in a discussion with fellow netizens
People posed questions and shared advice regarding the matter
Some did not think the OP had anything to be upset about
Another redditor opened up about a similar situation in their family
