It’s perfectly normal not to feed your guests in some parts of the world, and the Dutch and Swedes recently went viral after someone discovered the fact online, raising an infinite amount of eyebrows and leaving people flabbergasted. You can read about it in our previous features here.
Meanwhile, Americans are known for their hospitality. Which is why it can sometimes backfire when ungrateful people come into the picture.
In fact, this is what happened to a 38-year-old mom who was babysitting her new neighbor’s kids. Turns out, the turkey sandwiches she served them for lunch were about to get her in trouble.
A mom was shocked after this new neighbor accused her of giving not good enough food to her kids while she voluntarily babysat them
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Now, the OP wonders if she was really in the wrong for serving kids turkey sandwiches
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The OP recounted the talk she had with the ungrateful neighbor
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Offering food for guests, whether or not they are expected, is usual practice in America
In America, offering food for guests is a common practice. The 2022 YouGov poll ran a study and found that that 72% of Americans would offer for an unexpected guest to join them for a meal.
The invitation is more likely to be extended in the Midwest (79%), the West (74%), and the South (72%) than it is in the Northeast (63%). Meanwhile, Northeasterners are more likely than people in other parts of the country not offer food to their guests.
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Moreover, generally, older adults are more likely than younger adults to offer a meal. About nine in 10 adults over 65 say they would welcome their guest to the dinner table, compared to 56% of 18-to 29-year-olds. Women (78%) are also more likely than men (66%) to say they would offer food.
But in other parts of the world, guests should not expect to be given food if they haven’t made a plan for it
Food culture and the sharing that comes with it, however, is not similar in all parts of the world. A year ago, there was a huge stir on social media after a tweet about Swedes not sharing their food with their children’s guests went viral. The hashtag #Swedengate was trending for days, as people shared their mainly negative impressions and experiences about the Swedish approach to food sharing.
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And while many Americans would likely see not offering food to unexpected guests as rude, the researchers say there’s an explanation why Swedes and some other Scandinavian countries do that.
According to food studies professor Hakan Jonsson from Lund University in Sweden, the unwillingness to feed guests comes down to the days when food harvests had to be stored for many months during the long Nordic winter. Spontaneous dinners were traditionally not part of the culture, as families had to carefully plan and ration their food stores.
“There has been a very strong urge of independence, to not rely on others’ good will for having a good and independent life,” Professor Jonsson told The New York Times.
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