They say a person’s appetite grows while eating, and one man has just found out how blinding it can be.
The guy and his partner took one of their friends and her son to Disneyland and on a cruise. It wasn’t going that well, but they sucked it up and went through with it anyway.
Since the whole thing was such a drag, the couple no longer plans to bring them on any more trips, and this is making their friend furious.
In his post on r/AITAH, the man explained that for some reason, she feels entitled to more free vacations and is guilt-tripping him into paying for another one.
Being a good friend and getting taken advantage of aren’t always easy to tell apart at first
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And some entitled people might use it to see how far they can go
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Would the lady be okay with someone treating her the way she treats others?
It’s unclear why the woman acts like this. Experts say a number of factors can contribute to a person’s sense of entitlement. It is a characteristic of narcissism, which may be influenced by how they were raised, whether they had gotten special treatment, whether others solved their problems and shielded them from consequences, and so on.
As we just read, entitled people tend to adopt goals leading them into conflict with people, and while sometimes they may be able to put up an exterior of being nice and well-mannered on the outside, research shows that it’s just for show; deep down inside, this is not how they truly feel about themselves or other people.
Studies have also suggested that entitled people are more likely to experience chronic disappointment, unmet expectations, and a self-reinforcing cycle of behavior that puts them at risk for harm psychologically or socially.
When people think of themselves as superior, whatever challenges their worldview is met with anger and defensiveness. This creates a vicious cycle: the more they are challenged by social limits, the more irritated they become with these “injustices.”
A sense of entitlement can sometimes be a symptom of a personality disorder. These disorders affect how a person sees not just themselves but also others. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (APD), and borderline personality disorder (BPD) are a few conditions that may contribute to a sense of entitlement.
It’s not uncommon for friendships to end over money disagreements, though
A survey by Bustle found that good friends know how to take turns spotting each other, even if it’s a small purchase like a cup of coffee or a bus ticket.
Nearly 90% of the survey’s respondents said they’d never request their friend for something less than $10, and 47% said the same about costs under $20. Close friends cover one another because “it all evens out in the end.”
But group trips are a huge financial commitment, and clearly the Redditor did not expect—and does not expect—the woman to pay anything back. She should be thankful for receiving the vacation in the first place, not assume the generosity will continue indefinitely.
A survey by Ally Bank found that 59% of people’s financial goals are affected by spending on activities with friends. At the same time, one in five (20%) said financial or lifestyle differences contributed to the falling out of a friendship. And we may have witnessed a vivid example of this figure.
People who read the man’s story were absolutely appalled by the woman’s behavior
