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I said, "oh, sorry to hear that," and went on my way.
Then I spent the rest of the day and night thinking about that. Why the hell would SHE tell me that? Why they hell would she tell ME that? Why was she smiling when she told me that?
The next time I saw her, I asked her what she was doing that weekend and she said, "nothing, do you want to go to a movie?" And that was the moment that I realized what was happening. And I wound up getting a date out of it.
And eventually, a family.
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"Thanks, but I brought my own tent!"
And that's the story of why my friends think I'm socially retarded
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Love is a tricky game. No wonder there are volumes upon volumes of books, TV shows, podcasts, and even courses created to help us navigate its rocky terrain. Sometimes it pays off, but often our romantic hopes get shattered and time is the only power that’s able to heal that wound.
So in order to find out how to really determine whether your romantic interest is into you, we spoke with James Preece, a leading Dating Expert in the UK who has helped 1000s of single people. No wonder people often describe him as the UK’s version of Hitch.
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So first off, we wanted to figure out what you should do if your romantic interest is not getting your subtle hints, no matter what you do. “If you've tried being subtle and it didn't get noticed, then it's time to change tact,” the dating expert said. “It's worth noting that they might already be aware of your interest, but they aren't sure how to react. If they aren't keen, then they will pretend they've not noticed to avoid embarrassment.”
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Me: "That suit looks great on you. It would look better on the floor."
Him: "That would wrinkle the suit."
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Her: applying strawberry lip gloss.
Me: why are you putting on lip gloss?
Her: strawberry lip gloss tastes so nice.
Me: haha youre weird
Her: want to taste?
Me: nah I already know what it tastes like
Commence several years of late night self loathing and regret
Having said that, James explained that “if they like you then they need it spelled out clearly just in case they've got it wrong.” What he suggests is “rather than an over-the-top romantic gesture, just ask them if they'd like to go out on a date one evening.” James assured us that it doesn't need to be more complicated than that and they might be curious about just one meeting.
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His response? "Why? We don't pay for water."
Shut. Down.
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However, at some point, it may become evident that unfortunately, your interest is not romantically interested in you. James said that if you've tried a few different techniques, then it's probably a good idea to accept it's not going to work. “This can often be because you've already established a friendship or working relationship. Once you get categorized then it's very difficult to get them to change that.”
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I was out of town, chatting to a girl at a bar. We figured out I was 13 inches taller than her. She said, "That's funny, I'm going on a date with a guy who is 13 inches taller than me tomorrow. And I'll probably f*ck him after."
My response? "Well, that's a weird coincidence!"
I didn't figure it out until I was on a plane home.
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Moreover, “if they are constantly talking about the dates they are going on or asking your opinion on partners then that's a clear sign you aren't their target,” the dating expert said and added that in this case, it’s best to “just carry on enjoying their company the way it is and look to date other people instead.”
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Girl: Are you going to that party?
Me: Yeah for a little bit. Probably gonna be boring.
Girl: Yeah...was thinking of just staying in.
Me: Probably a good plan.
Girl: So yeah...I'll just be here tonight. Roommates are gone.
Me: Sounds nice; my roommates never leave.
Girl: Ok. So. I'll be here all alone in my apartment. If the party sucks.
Me: Very good.
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When it comes to dating in general, James confirmed that the pandemic has really changed the way people are dating. “They've been forced to slow things down, which is actually a great thing. They've had a great chance to reflect on what they do and don't want.”
The dating coach also said that he firmly believes that people are now much more serious about finding a long-term partner and they aren't willing to settle anymore. “So they are less likely to be messing around on dating apps and more likely to look to meet people in the real world,” James concluded.
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