Peeps Online Share 30 Disappointing Things To Find About Their Partners

Of course, each of us is a whole unique world, with their own characteristics and specific perceptions, and what for someone looks like an absolute 'red flag' in a relationship, for another, may be a unique feature or something like that. That's why it is so interesting to get acquainted with the opinions of different people - especially since the original thread has already gained more than 11K upvotes and around 9K various comments in less than a day.

Another thing is probably interesting - how are we going to deal with these petty yet disappointing shortcomings that we find in our significant others? A couple of decades ago, many people would have said categorically: “Fight and try to make the other person into the best version of themselves!” Today, the perception of such problems is not so clear.

The best version - in whose opinion? According to us? But this opinion may not completely coincide with the views of the person whom we are going to “re-educate.” Perhaps they are quite comfortable this way, and maybe we are the very first person in their entire life who is outraged by this habit or character trait? What should we do in this case?

“It is in situations like this that therapy and conscious relationship building come to the rescue,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch over this topic to get a comment. “On the one hand - yes, both parties should be comfortable in a relationship. On the other hand, you need to respect the traits of the person with whom you are walking through this life, and be able to make reasonable compromises.”

“And just to find this fine line, to realize where there's a violation of personal boundaries, and where you can just give in and relax - this is where a specialist can help. Well, or you can try to figure it out yourself or together with your partner. But then sincere mutual desire and mutual frankness is a must. Otherwise, conflicts are inevitable..." Irina summarizes.

Or maybe, who knows, this is all just an abstract philosophy - and you just need to live, enjoy every day and night on this small yet beautiful planet, and be just glad that there's a person next to you whom you love. And who loves you. Even if they... well, forget to flush the toilet from time to time... Damn, or should we say this in a more diplomatic way, eh? What do you actually think?