Financial stability is vital. And couples need to be on the same page in terms of savings, expenses, and goals. However, there’s far more to a successful and deep relationship than just someone’s income stream. Trust, respect, passion, good communication—they’re fundamental.
Unfortunately, some parents put too much emphasis on their kids finding someone who earns a lot, instead of a person with good principles and a kind heart. Redditor u/RedBee7763 recently went viral after opening up about how her family looked down on her fiancé when they thought he didn’t earn much. However, she let the secret about his true finances slip one day and turned to the AITA community for advice on what to do next.
Even though financial stability is important, happiness and healthy relationships are more than just about money
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One internet user shared how her family kept looking down on her fiancé, unaware of how much he actually brought to the table
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The story got a lot of attention and started an intense discussion
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According to the OP, things have been tense, after she couldn’t take it anymore and stood up to defend her fiancé, whom her family had looked down on for years. Now, her parents are mad at her for having kept secrets about him from them.
On the flip side, the redditor’s partner is disappointed that she wasn’t able to keep his secret. “I’m stuck in the middle and don’t know what to do,” she wrote.
The reaction to the story was mixed. Many redditors reading the story weren’t impressed by the way that the OP handled the situation. Some thought that her fiancé would have defended himself if he had thought it important, so there was no need to step in on his behalf.
Others wondered why the woman focused on proving her parents wrong by highlight how much her partner earns, instead of talking about how happy he makes her and what a great character he has.
And while some thought it was wrong for the OP to break her partner’s trust, others pointed out that she must have been incredibly frustrated, constantly having to hear her family making fun of him. Others, meanwhile, were even more sympathetic to the author of the post.
No matter what happened, the core issue is that the post author’s family value people’s earnings far, far more than anything else. Don’t get us wrong, financial stability is essential: you want to have a safety net and to have more opportunities in life for yourself and your children.
Money issues are among the top things that couples fight about, so it's essential they're on the same page
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‘Brides’ points out that the top things that married couples fight about most often are money, sex, and housework. So being on the same page with your partner in terms of finances is a great idea and will provide stability in the long term.
However, happiness in life isn’t just a product of wealth. Otherwise, you’d see millionaires and billionaires strutting around smiling and dancing all the time. More often than not, it’s the opposite. No matter how much you earn, it never seems enough. And with greater wealth come more responsibilities; as well as mistrust in others and the paranoia of losing it all.
True happiness is about developing meaningful relationships with your family and friends, finding purpose in your work, and giving back to the community by volunteering your time, energy, and cash. Not only that, many would argue that having good health is far more important than a massive bank balance.
However, when it comes to charity, it’s a good idea to focus on the causes that you personally care about, not what everyone tells you is important. According to the Harvard Business Review, you’re more likely to be happy from spending money on someone else, however, it matters how and why you give.
You’ll feel far happier about your decision to be charitable if you feel like you were free to make the decision, instead of forced into it by your peers.
The author of the post revealed some more background info in the comments
Many readers thought that the woman did the wrong thing
However, some believe that pretty much everyone was in the wrong
Others stood up for the author. Here's what they had to say
