Jack Mcintosh, a content creator from Perth, Australia, broke down in tears after a model refused to meet with him to discuss her perspective on gender issues.
The young man explained that he had hoped to meet with the woman, named Jordan Tan, to “have a conversation” and better understand her views on feminism.
“I’m a genuinely curious person; I just didn’t see the harm in it,” he shared.
Highlights
- Content creator Jack Mcintosh broke down in tears after being rejected by model Jordan Tan.
- Jack asked Jordan to meet so she could discuss her perspective on feminism and "strong" opinion about men.
- He later apologized for his "naive approach" and for being pushy during their exchange.
“To add context, I catch up with strangers all the time. Getting to know their story, understanding perspectives. Isn’t that what we are here to do?”
Jack added that he was “genuinely curious” because Jordan had very “strong opinions” about men.
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Jordan, who regularly posts content criticizing the patriarchy, previously shared—without naming any names—that she had been messaged by two men who invited her to have coffee so they could “convince [her] that it’s ‘not all men.’”
She said she turned down the invitation because she didn’t want to meet “two strangers” from the internet and was not expecting them to ask about her reason for refusing to meet.
“I don’t owe you a single thing,” Jordan, who reportedly said she has “decentred men” in her life, captioned her TikTok video, which has received over 1.3 million views.
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Additionally, she shared the voice notes she received from the strangers, in which they expressed they wanted to “help each other learn something.”
She said she found the voice notes “weird” and the invitation to meet to be “vague.”
“Being the kind person that I am, I said, ‘Unfortunately, this doesn’t align with me, and I don’t picture an outcome that I am fulfilled by, but if you are really interested in my perspective, feel free to continue on following my social media journey.'"
Jack Mcintosh said he was “genuinely curious” about model Jordan Tan’s “very strong” opinions about men
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She added: “I wish I could say that I was surprised that two straight white men can’t understand why a woman would feel uncomfortable meeting up with two complete strangers, who are males, to talk about perspective.
“It seems that they just want to project their own deeply insecure beliefs on ‘not all men’ so that I don’t have to ‘live like this’ for the rest of my life.”
Jordan said she was not interested in meeting them for coffee and recommended a few books about feminism instead
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The model and influencer recommended a few books that would allow the men to learn more about gender inequality, including Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates and Boys Will Be Boys by Clementine Ford.
She also sent them links to charities that support women and a podcast about the “men’s loneliness epidemic.”
According to Jordan, the men’s content focused on mental health.
Following Jordan’s video, Jack revealed that he had been one of the men who had messaged her and apologized for causing her discomfort.
“I’ve never read a book, so when you [Jordan] sent me these books, I don’t want to say it goes over my head, but when people tell me to read any book, whether I have a fear of reading books, I don’t know, but I’ve never read a book before.
“I learn through conversation, other people, good or bad, that’s just me.”
The Perth native admitted to previous behavior he’s not proud of but said that he “likes to think [he has] changed in the past two years.”
The interaction between Jordan and Jack quickly went viral, sparking discussions about pushy men
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“I’m taking accountability for my actions, and the way I made Jordan Tan feel and anyone else that I might have offended, my approach was very naive,” he said in a video he shared on Monday (February 10), referencing his insistence that the two meet up.
He continued: “I’ve now taken the time to educate myself and try to be better every single day. I just wanted to try and spark a conversation with Jordan and learn from her experiences.
“I would never want anyone to feel the way I made Jordan feel, and for that I’m truly sorry.”
Jordan, who recently responded to Jack’s apology video on TikTok, told Bored Panda that she has blocked the content creator.
“This incident represents an issue that is so much larger than him or me,” she explained. “The reason this has become a worldwide topic of discussion is because even though the situation was not relatively severe, this is where it starts, and most women can detect misogynistic and dangerous behavior just from a minor interaction.”
Jack has since apologized for his "naive approach" and for insisting that the two meet up
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Jordan believes the biggest reason people struggle to understand there is a systemic gender gap is a lack of education.
"I believe the first step in educating yourself is to ask the women around you about their experiences and respect their boundaries if they don’t feel comfortable sharing,” she continued.
“Actively listening is also really important here and not feeling the need to share your own opinions which might come with bias if you come from a privileged background. I find a lot of people struggle with this but it’s the easiest first step.
“We also live in a world full of easily accessible resources, reading books or listening to podcasts created by women (who are the oppressed group) is really important but also cross referencing. A lot of people forget to consider all perspectives and form their own opinions given the information they have received.
“While there are great resources, there are also a lot of misinformation out there, so being able to have critical thinking skills is important.”
Jack is doing a “One Year Experiment,” which consists of getting rejected every day until he reaches one million followers
His response to Jordan’s video sparked mixed reactions on social media, with one person commenting, “Rejection therapy isn’t working out well.”
“He apologized. He wants to be better, and he said sorry. Give him a break,” said a separate user.
“Wants to be a better person refuses available resources and information that can help him do that. It’s not OUR JOB TO EDUCATE MEN,” somebody else stated.
People criticized Jack for initially refusing to take "No" for an answer
