Despite what anyone might say, I believe that names are quite powerful. When someone says ‘Dumbledore’, I think of wisdom, meanwhile ‘Aphrodite’ reminds me of love, so yeah, names do leave an impression, and a person’s choice of their name should be respected.
That is not the case with this teen’s extended foster family who insist on calling him ‘Nicholas’ even though he repeatedly told them that his name is ‘Nico’. Fed up by them, he took his foster parents’ advice and finally decided to ignore them, but apparently, they found this rude!
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A person's choice of a name should be respected as it can leave quite an impression, but not everyone agrees
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The poster's name is 'Nico' but many people fail to understand that it's not short for 'Nicholas', and he has to correct them
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He lives with a really amazing foster family but has a problem with their relatives as they insist on calling him Nicholas because it's "professional"
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They even advised him to change his name and refused to use his real one even when he asked them to, so his foster parents advised him to ignore them
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When he did indeed ignore them, they found him rude, and even though his foster parents were supportive of him, he felt bad ignoring the extended family
It has been observed that 368,500 children were in foster care in the US during the year 2022, and today’s story is about one such kid who ended up with an amazing foster family. Our protagonist is a 16-year-old guy whose name is ‘Nico’, and he always has to inform people that it is NOT short for ‘Nicholas’.
He tells us that he has wonderful foster parents who actually look after him well, and foster siblings who are pretty fine with having him around. In fact, this kind couple is also in touch with the other foster kids that they have looked after.
Research states that maltreatment, including neglect and abuse, is a major factor that plagues the foster system in the US. Fortunately, our main character landed up with such amazing people, but he has a problem with their extended family.
Apparently, these people simply refuse to call him Nico and insist on Nicholas as it sounds more “professional” for an adult male. These relatives are so entitled that they even give unsolicited advice to the original poster (OP) and ask him to change his name.
He always corrects them, but it falls on deaf ears, and their reasoning for this behavior is, “But Nico is short for Nicholas!” The teen was probably fed up with these people, and even his foster parents told him that he should ignore them if they kept at it purposely.
That’s exactly what Nico started doing, and refused to respond when someone said Nicholas and asked him to pass the potatoes at dinner once. His foster parents also said that they didn’t know anyone named Nicholas, meanwhile, his foster sibling “Nicole”, assumed it was her they were referring to and passed them the potatoes.
Well, this didn’t go down well with the people as Nico’s ignorance “bothered” them. They called him rude and even said that he should be open to “wisdom others offer with name suggestions”. Ugh, some people and their big fat egos!
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Anyway, his foster parents still backed him up as he ignored these people who were purposely ignorant of his name, but it still didn’t feel right for OP. You see, he doesn’t want to ruin things with any of the foster family members as he has found such a good one.
We have already seen how research talks about maltreatment in the foster care system, so Nico is bound to feel insecure about losing a good family when he finally finds one. On top of it, he mentions that he has been in the system since he was 2 years old, and looking at the way he’s trying not to mess things up here, he might’ve had some bad experiences in the past.
When the teen posted his story online, many people advised him that he was not doing anything wrong by ignoring such people. After all, he was only fighting their ignorance with ignorance, wasn’t he?
Folks also called out these relatives for having the gall to suggest the guy change his complete name just because they don’t find it to their standards. Some even spoke about how they were indirectly trying to take away his identity by enforcing a “professional” name onto him.
Research suggests, “The importance of identity development for teens is huge. When a teen is developing their identity they are learning what makes them unique while also feeling the need to fit in. For teens who feel excluded from others, this process can lead them to begin participating in harmful behavior that prevents the formation of a secure and positive self-identity.”
Well, looks like ignoring such people who might have an impact on his identity definitely sounds like the way forward for the teen. People also pointed out that his foster parents sounded very understanding, so his messing things up was not really likely. Given the fact that the couple themselves suggested he do that, it does seem like they care about the teen.
Don’t you think so? If you were in his shoes, what would you do? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section!
People online backed him up by stating that he was not doing anything wrong by ignoring them, and they even praised his wonderful foster family
