Woman Stands Firm Against Babysitting Nephew Without Notice, Sparks Drama

It's virtually impossible to belong to a family without getting the short end of the stick. There's so much compromise that someone inevitably has to sacrifice.

But when Liya (who's known on Reddit as Ayumi_Doll) was unexpectedly put in a position to babysit their nephew despite having a hectic work schedule, and a multitude of other obstacles, they couldn't.

Faced with the dilemma of balancing personal responsibilities and their family's expectations, Liya chose the former and unloaded the boy to his grandparents, but as they explained in a post on 'Am I the [Jerk]?', that sparked significant backlash.

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Grandparents are becoming an increasingly important source of child care in many places around the world.

In the United States, for example, research by the University of Chicago notes that 60 percent of them have looked after their grandchildren during a 10-year period, and 70 percent of those who did provided care for two years or more.

"Our findings show that different groups of grandparents are likely to provide different types of care. Importantly grandparents with less income and less education, or who are from minority groups, are more likely to take on care for their grandchildren," said Linda Waite, the Lucy Flower Professor in Sociology at UChicago and an expert on aging.

So the fact that Liya and their sister's folks wanted to take a break from it is completely understandable. But pressuring your sibling into it without any heads up is not.

The primary solution to their frustration is to start drawing boundaries and only care for the kid when it suits them, and for their parents to do likewise. Maybe this would finally compel "Risa" to find a sustainable plan B for when all family members are unavailable.

Let's hope the family will find an arrangement in which everyone feels their needs are being met. Otherwise, they run the risk of building resentment and animosity towards one another, with the child ending up caught in the middle of their conflicts.