Co-parenting kids after a separation can be difficult, especially if one person finds a partner. However, for the children’s sake, the father and mother should be considerate of not forcing them into anything. After all, such a big change can be tough for the little ones.
This dad, on the other hand, wasted no time in coercing his kids to accept his new wife as their “mom.” Of course, his ex was irked as he tried to completely erase her from their lives, but then, he dared to make a bold demand. Scroll down to find out what he wanted!
More info: Reddit
Some folks don't even think about their kids before forcing them to accept their partner as the "new parent"
Image credits: Liza Summer / Pexels (not the actual photo)
The poster had been co-parenting her 3 kids with her ex (Nick), when he suddenly introduced a new woman (Hailey) and forced them to bond with her
Image credits: LaursSingingly
Image credits: Ivan Samkov / Pexels (not the actual photo)
He wanted Hailey to be their "new mom", and tried to completely erase the poster from their lives, but failed miserably
Image credits: LaursSingingly
Image credits: Drazen Zigic / Freepik (not the actual photo)
The couple made co-parenting very difficult for the poster, and she had to take Nick to court to sort it all out
Image credits: LaursSingingly
Image credits: freepik / Freepik (not the actual photo)
However, she was shocked when he demanded that she take a back seat with the kids, and let Hailey be their mom as she's infertile
Image credits: LaursSingingly
When she refused, Nick threw a huge fit over it, and Hailey accused the poster of having no compassion for her
Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP), who is the mom of 3 kids. She divorced her husband (Nick) after he confessed that he didn’t love her and only married her when she was pregnant with their oldest. As if this was not enough, he started seeing her as an unimportant person for their kids, and brought along a new person (Hailey) into their lives.
The shocking part is that he wanted to erase the poster from their children’s lives and let Hailey be their “new mom”. Obviously, OP got angry, and she didn’t want to let it happen when she was still very much present in their lives. Experts warn that when one parent uses this alienation behavior, it can strain relationships for everyone involved, especially the kids.
Nick also damaged things further by trying to make OP assign tasks to Hailey, like dropping off and picking up their children. Now, she was a complete stranger to them, and no parent would trust their kids with just anyone. Of course, the poster objected, but then, her ex took her to court. It’s hardly a surprise that the judge ruled in OP’s favor, as Nick was trying to alienate her.
However, this man just never learns because he sparked trouble again by setting his wedding date during the poster’s parenting time. Well, he lost the battle again, and the couple had more reason to hate OP. Fortunately, though, their plan to enforce Hailey as the new mom on the kids also tanked miserably. The three children always preferred their real mom over anyone else.
Image credits: dikushin / Freepik (not the actual photo)
Nick and Hailey don’t realize that her taking over their real mom’s place is a really awful thing, and even research flags it down as a big “No-No”. Studies have also shown that when kids are forced into a relationship, their natural instinct is to resist, so taking things slow is important. No wonder the children call Hailey by her name and not as their mom.
In fact, the couple also tried to force them to spend mother's days with her, but to no avail. However, things just got nasty after they told the poster that Hailey is infertile, so they can’t have their own children. Somehow, they just expected OP to feel pity for them, take a back seat, and let them take the kids to Hailey’s hometown in Canada for a month.
It has been observed that infertility may spark many psychological issues, like stress, anxiety, guilt, or even depression. However, that does not mean that Nick and Hailey lash out against the poster when she is not at fault here. Every mother wants to be the central figure in her kids’ lives, so asking her to give that up and trying to erase her is quite atrocious on the couple’s behalf.
Even Redditors felt that their actions were too entitled and that all their drama would also hurt the children. Many suggested that OP didn’t need to coordinate her parenting time just for their whims and fancies. Do you agree with them? Let us know in the comments!
Folks were shocked that he had the audacity to alienate the poster from her own kids, and even labeled him as a "bad father"
