It's common for family members to disagree on a variety of topics — from fashion and lifestyle choices to politics. Yet, it becomes heartbreaking when it turns into a debate about something like basic human rights.
You guessed it, that's what happened to today's OP. This woman had a hysterectomy, so she couldn't get pregnant, due to the risk related to it. At the same time, her mom kept rambling about how the abortion ban is a great idea, which made the woman lose her cool and cut contact with her right-wing mom.
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Family disputes over politics are common, but that doesn’t make them any less heartbreaking
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This woman went off birth control and around half a year later, she was rushed to the emergency room due to ectopic pregnancy
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She lost a fallopian tube and later it was found that her other tube had a large but benign tumor
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That means if she were to get pregnant, it would be risky for her life, so she decided to get her uterus and possibility of high-risk pregnancy removed
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Some time after the operation, her right-wing mom called and starting yapping about how the new government's abortion ban is a good thing, which angered her daughter
Last summer, the OP came off her birth control because she had pretty bad side effects. Typically, side effects of birth control pills include such things as headaches, nausea, changes in one's period, sore breasts, and so on. Mostly, they torment people who take them in the first 2-3 months, and then the body adapts and they usually go away.
Well, we don’t know what kind of side effects OP’s had, but we know that they made her choose to go off birth control. Both she and her partner were aware that it might result in pregnancy, but they felt pretty ambivalent about it—if it happens, it happens; if it doesn’t, it doesn’t.
Then, 6 months later, while the author was visiting her parents-in-law, she was rushed to the emergency room. Turns out she was internally bleeding from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy.
This kind of pregnancy happens when a fertilized egg gets stuck in the fallopian tubes on its way to the womb and plants itself there. There is no way for this egg to develop into a baby and it puts the pregnant person’s life at risk, especially if it ruptures.
When it happened, the woman underwent emergency surgery to stop the bleeding, during which they had to remove one of her fallopian tubes. After such a procedure, it is still possible to get pregnant as long as the woman has another fallopian tube, ovulates, and has at least one functioning ovary.
Unfortunately, soon after, the doctor found a large, benign tumor on the original poster’s other fallopian tube, along with uterine fibroids. This meant that if she were to get pregnant, it would be a high-risk pregnancy, which would be unlikely (but not impossible) to carry to full term.
If anything went wrong during her pregnancy, she would need to get an abortion. In the state she lives in, legal team input is needed to go through when it comes to emergency abortion, which can extend the process to the point it is too late.
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So, given how dangerous her situation was, the OP decided to get a hysterectomy. It’s a major operation during which a woman's uterus is removed and she no longer can get pregnant.
The author’s surgery was done the day after the United States elections, so on November 6th. While physically, she was recovering pretty well, the emotional side of things was a little more complicated. And her mom didn’t make it easier.
The mom didn’t know about the author’s operation, as she had only told her husband and best friend, as she wanted to come to terms with it before explaining it to the world. So, one day, her mom called her and started going on about how this new government would be great for families, how she couldn’t wait to be a grandma, and that the abortion ban would “save so many unborn babies.”
All of this made the OP lose her cool. She started screaming at her mom that she’d never be a grandma and that it is because the mentioned abortion restriction put her daughter’s life in danger, so she made sure it wouldn’t.
People online agreed that she wasn’t wrong here and that she shouldn’t apologize. The ban that her mom worships will put a lot of women’s lives in danger, not only the OP’s, if realized. Instead, the author’s mom should apologize or admit that she actually doesn’t really care about her daughter’s reproductive rights, which would be a heartbreaking revelation.
Either way, with no update, we don’t know if any of that happened. We hope that the original poster’s mom will come to her senses and realize where she was wrong. But even if she does, there are plenty of people in the US and the world who don’t realize it, which makes it a scary place to be a woman.
She exploded on her mom, saying that this new government is the reason why she won't have kids, and later refused to apologize, which was a decision netizens approved of
