Fed Up With The Mess That Happens Due To Trick-Or-Treaters Every Year, Rich Parent 'Ruins' Halloween For Thousands Of Kids

It’s all fun and games until somebody gets hurt. Halloween might be one of the most festive holidays of the year, but it doesn’t give people the right to do whatever they want. And parents should still be making sure that their kids know to trick or treat in peace, without leaving a massive mess behind. Alas! Real-life is often confusing and chaotic.

A redditor living in a rich neighborhood told the tale of how they ‘ruined’ Halloween for thousands of kids. They asked the AITA community on Reddit for their verdict on whether they were being a total jerk or not because they didn’t feel any remorse. Their sister, however, was livid.

We don’t want to spoil the full story for you just yet, so go on and read the full tale below, dear Pandas. When you’re done, we’d love to hear your thoughts about the situation: do you think the parent was wrong to ask the police for help to restrict who can come into the neighborhood or were things truly getting out of hand?

I reached out to parenting blogger Samantha Scroggin, from California, for a chat about Halloween, trick-or-treating etiquette, and what role parents should play in all of the fun. Samantha is the founder of the Walking Outside in Slippers blog. "Safety has to be the most important priority when it comes to trick-or-treating. That means make sure you're walking in a well-lit area and probably with a flashlight, wearing comfortable shoes, wearing costumes that don't obstruct your vision, and being careful while crossing the street," she told Bored Panda.

The blogger revealed that her approach is to go trick-or-treating along with her kids, however, each parent needs to decide for themselves what's best for their family. It's not just about age. "I personally accompany my kids while trick-or-treating, and wouldn't feel comfortable letting them go alone for a number of years. They're currently 10 and 6. Plus, going along for the candy gathering is a key ingredient in a fun Halloween night for me. I think parents need to make decisions regarding letting kids go trick-or-treating without them based on their kids' personalities and ages, and what makes sense for that family."

I’d imagine that any good parent would be absolutely livid that they can’t take their child to the hospital when they’re in pain. That’s exactly what happened to the redditor, the author of the post, whose daughter broke her arm. Unfortunately, due to all the cars parked haphazardly by out-of-neighborhood folks, the redditor had to wait hours to get their teen daughter to the ER.

The parent was done with the endless droves of trick-or-treaters leaving behind candy wrappers and causing chaos. They got some locals, mainly police officers, to stand at the gate and restrict who can actually come into the neighborhood to celebrate Halloween. In short, if you wanted to trick-or-treat in the neighborhood, you had to be close to someone who actually lives there.

However, the redditor’s sister got extremely mad at them for putting an end to trick-or-treating for so many kids. She reminded them about how they had to go trick-or-treating in other neighborhoods because they lived in a trailer park when they were kids themselves.

The vast majority of AITA community members thought that the author of the post did nothing wrong. Or, as one user put it, “People still need to behave. The kids can still have fun. Parents just have to actually parent them now because someone else is watching.” However, there were plenty of other, more critical opinions about what happened.

Parenting blogger Samantha shared what trick-or-treating is like in her neck of the woods on the US West Coast. "We are among only a few families with kids in my current California Central Coast neighborhood. But we live in a cute little old town area on a cul-de-sac, so I love taking my kids trick-or-treating each year and to visit with the neighbors."

She continued: "For my town in general beyond our immediate neighborhood, trick-or-treating is commonplace, along with attending school and church trunk-or-treat events. A number of houses get creative with the decorating each year, and some start as early as August. Decorating that early sounds a bit much to me, but the holidays do come around so fast, so I guess it makes sense for people to do what makes them happy. Especially in pandemic times." Halloween can be a wonderful way to spread some joy during these hard times, after all.

I was especially interested to get to the core (or rather the nougat) of the topic: what candy families should get so they're a big hit with the neighboring trick-or-treaters. "I don't feel like I have a good grasp on what candy is popular for most kids these days. I buy what I like if left to my own devices, which is basically anything with chocolate and peanut butter," Samantha said.

"My 10-year-old son picked out the candy this year for us to give away, and it's gross little suckers and tiny fruity things. At least I won't be as tempted to eat the leftovers! I think the ultimate prize for any trick-or-treater is still the full-sized candy bar, which was something kids talked about even when I was little. Of course, it's a rare and lucky day that you actually score the elusive full-sized candy bar."

One of the most important things for ghouls, ghosts, and goblins to remember on Halloween is to be polite at all times. It might sound simple and obvious, but a warm ‘thank you!’ shows your neighbors that you care. Meanwhile, avoid stomping all over the lawn to get to the door: use the path, it’s what it’s there for. You’re not here just for the candy—you’re here to be a good, respectable neighbor, too.

CNN warns that trick-or-treaters should do their best to keep their greed in check. “If someone has left a bowl of candy on their doorstep, be nice and take only one or two pieces so other kids will have some to find. And if you're ever offered candy you don't like, take some anyway. You can always sell it—yes, for money!—to a buyback program for a good cause,” Melissa Gray writes.

Something else you should keep in mind is how your costume will affect the locals in your area. For instance, if you know for a fact that there will be lots and lots of small children around, you probably shouldn’t put on your most horrifying costume. Instead of something that would scare the living bejesus outta even grownups, giving them nightmares for weeks to come, why not go for something a smidge less scary and a tad more fun?

Keep in mind that some kids can’t eat regular candy because of allergies. If you want to be extremely accommodating to everyone, consider picking up some treats that are, for example, peanut-free or specifically designed for those with severe allergies.

And if you want to take a break from handing out candy on Halloween this year, CNN suggests that you turn off the lights and lower the volume of the TV. (You can also pretend you’re asleep or even hide in the closet if you hear any trick-or-treaters passing by. Who knows—that might be fun, too. Just watch out for the monsters hiding in the shadows.)