Having roommates can be great if you want to be more social. You can hit the town together, have cozy nights in with a warm cup of tea and a movie, and have someone to help you in case of an emergency. Other times, however, roommates can be a real pain.
Like this woman, who started giving her roommate fines for things like not making her bed, not emptying the trash, and leaving the bathroom light on. Looking for solutions on how to deal with this so they don't lose their sanity, the roommate asked for advice online.
A woman started giving her roommate fines for breaking house rules
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The roommate thought this was ridiculous since they were fined for things like not making their bed and leaving the bathroom light on
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A written agreement can sometimes solve a lot of misunderstandings among roommates
What the OP is dealing with here is nothing particularly new. If you've ever had a roommate, you know that conflicts and fights about the household are almost inevitable. If the roommates are both renting from a landlord and the OP is not paying rent to "Ashley," then they both have the same rights as tenants.
The OP doesn't go into detail but mentions in one of their comments that "Ashley" is not the landlord, but she has lived in that place for a long time. That's why she might feel some superiority over OP, thinking she can give out "fines" and set house rules.
In reality, both roommates should sit down and discuss what the house rules should be. As people have different standards of cleanliness, it's best to set a cleaning schedule. The same goes for other rules: visitors, quiet hours, going into each other's rooms, and so on.
According to Mental Health America, it's best to write down all the rules and sign an agreement. A roommate agreement will hold both tenants accountable and should help if a roommate is slacking off on their duties.
For some roommates, co-living can be as easy as breathing. Others, on the other hand, might need a little more planning and compromise for both tenants to feel comfortable. Home, after all, is where we're supposed to unwind, not feel stressed constantly.
Most people find it hard living with roommates and have many things to complain about
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Although it may be lonely, living on your own is great in one other regard: you don't have to deal with ridiculous roommates. Yet many people know what it's like to live with someone else, as even 4 in 5 Americans say they have lived with a roommate at some point in their lives.
According to a survey conducted in December 2024 by Zillow, being annoyed with your roommate is nothing new, either. 93% of the respondents said they had dealt with a roommate's annoying habit, and the most popular vice was "not helping clean."
Even when you're living with roommates, you want time for yourself. Socializing is fun, but when they're all up in your business, it can drive you crazy. And 31% of Americans agree, saying that "respect for personal space and boundaries" is the most valued quality when choosing a roommate.
Is the friendly roommate just a work of fiction, then? It might seem so, as even the British co-living brand Ark found in a 2023 survey that people really, really hate to have roommates. 54% said they dislike it because of cleaning up after others, 41% hate putting up with their noise, 38% say roommates waste energy, and 29% complained that their roommates steal their food and take too long in the shower (24%).
It's not ideal to live with roommates who don't clean up after themselves and don't respect your personal boundaries. It's also unpleasant when they come up with unreasonable rules. However, it doesn't mean all roommates are bad; you might just be an unlucky renter.
People in the comments had some petty and hilarious ideas about how the roommate should react: "Pay her in Monopoly money"
