My roommate is taking over my house, garage and covered patio and will not pick up after himself. He is a pig, leaving food and trash all over in a new garage we had built.
I bought a nice work bench, a new scroll saw and sanders to make bird houses as a hobby. I can't work outside until I clean up his mess first to make room. By the time I'm done I am angry and no longer interested.
I have tried talking, texting, writing him emails asking him to please pick up after himself in the common areas and he will not do it.
He makes excuses that are ridiculous. He has a problem with making mistakes or being wrong. He goes out of his way to find reasons that make everything not his fault.
When he believes he makes no mistakes, then theres nothing for him to learn from. He accepts no responsibility.
Example; if I come home to another big mess and get upset then call him to ask why he didn't pic it up and express how much it bothers me - he will hang up while I am talking then block my calls and stay out late until wee hours of the morning to avoid me making himself unavailable to do his half of the work around the house. If I ask why he didn't come home at a decent time so we could talk - he says why would he want to come home to hear me complain.
Which is first, the chicken or the egg?
If he kept his word and cleaned up after himself, I would have nothing to complain about. If he was present and available to talk when problems come up we could work on them together. I am fed up. What can I do?
The picture is my new work bench and the mess he left roday. He says there is no mess I'm just too picky and making a big deal out of nothing. What do you think?
