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Discussing the reasons why people choose to keep some things a secret, Professor of Communications at Syracuse University Makana Chock suggested it can give us a competitive advantage—like having grandma’s secret recipe or keeping our mouth shut about a job search until the right moment comes; it can also help protect our own or others’ reputation or to avoid negative consequences caused by our actions.
“We also may keep secrets as a way of maintaining our membership in a group,” Prof. Chock continued. “For example, if most of our friend group support one political candidate, we may keep secret that we voted for their opponent. Or we may attempt to maintain social harmony, by not sharing secrets at the family BBQ.”
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According to the expert, our decisions about what—and whether—to keep secret are heavily influenced by the perceived negative consequences of sharing certain information, and the benefits of keeping silent. “How much harm could be done to ourselves and those we care about by making some information public? Who would be hurt?”
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I am beginning to believe that our reward system in our brains have been so hijacked by modern day that we don’t even realize it, and we feel lesser or powerless over time as we dwell on our specific thing.
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Edit: Because so many of you are asking what my job is, I will tell you. I'm currently the operations manager at the biggest sawmill in the area.
The only job I had before this was washing dishes at a care home.
I didn't lie on my resume, I guess they just liked me.
According to Prof. Chock, there are sometimes conflicting consequences from keeping secrets. “People may feel betrayed or angry that you’ve hidden (or revealed) information from (or about) them. Particularly if you are keeping secrets about others.
“For example, you’re friends with a couple and one of them is cheating. Your brother dropped out of school and doesn’t want your parents to know. Keeping secrets can involve a complicated algorithm of weighing consequences and ethical considerations.”
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He showed me his last will with his attorney.
I think my parents and uncles might k*ll me if they find out
Context:
When my granddad suffered from kidney failure, no one visited him except me. The reason is that he had many mistresses and still drank heavily when he was 75 to 80, which made his children hate him. Also, they have their own lives. From the day he was diagnosed with cancer until today, I have visited and taken care of him every day.
My parents kicked me out of the house for being a party-goer and wanting to arrange my marriage at a young age (I was 19 back then and a female). I ran away for one month, but when I returned, they officially kicked me out. That’s when I told my grandfather. He gave me a lump sum of money to start over, so I went back to university and rented an apartment near his place.
When I graduated this year, he called a meeting with his attorney and me. That’s when they told me that I will inherit all of his assets, including the ranch, his cars, basically everything he owns, and his real estate/construction business. When they asked me what will I do with the money I told them that my experiences when I run away when I was 19 opened my eyes to everything that’s happening within our city. It made me realize how hard life is. I use to have 5 cad for 1 week and I have to stretch it out. Most people would think homeless people are dangerous but they are not, unless you provoke them or they are defending themselves.
My plan when I receive the money is to put half a million each towards
- red road healing society
- hope mission in Edmonton
- Edmonton addiction youth services
- WAEC woman shelter
This has been noted on our meeting and currently working on it with his attorney.
EDIT: Hi everyone, thank you for your input and advice! I did mention this to my granddad’s attorney, and for legal purposes, he said I wasn’t supposed to post anything regarding this, lol. I’m just an excited 22-year-old female who wants to make a difference in my community because I have experienced it for about a month. I know how hard it is, and it excites me to think about how many people I know around that area who would be happy to finally have a shelter!! Thank you everyone. Wish me luck!
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Discussing secrecies of a larger scale, such as government secrets, Dr. Makana Chock pointed out that they might sometimes be essential. “Revealing the details of a prisoner exchange before it’s finalized could jeopardize the negotiations. They can’t reveal troop movements that could put lives in danger. But as some legal cases have revealed (for instance, Watergate), the definition of ‘national security’ has sometimes been stretched to include reputational damage to specific administrations or individuals.”
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Edit: f****d up the number. Increased. Actuals above $100B are pure speculation due to the lack of transparency.
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Yet, my boss and team love me and always compliment me on how hardworking I am.
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In a recent interview with Bored Panda, the user ‘Necrocharm’ shared that they were curious about the kinds of deep, hidden truths people might be holding onto; that’s why they decided to start the thread.
“We all have secrets, but some of them are so significant or shocking that they could change our entire perception of a person or situation if they were ever revealed. I wanted to see what kinds of things people might be willing to share anonymously, and it turns out there's a lot people are keeping to themselves.”
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Discussing what secrets would likely shock everyone the most if they were to come into the light, the OP emphasized that it’s hard to pinpoint exact secrets. “But I imagine that the most shocking ones are those that involve people who we think we know well, like family, close friends, or even public figures,” they said.
“For example, discovering that someone has been living a double life, has a hidden criminal past, or has done something that goes against their public persona would definitely be shocking. These are the kinds of things that could completely change how we view someone.”
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I had the time of my life stepping on guys who were begging for it, some were actually super cute.
My friends would never guess that. I even let one of the men pay me 300 pounds to let 'April', a fem male sub who works there as a stripper, give me a lapdance in the back rooms on a suspicious leather couch.
Nowadays I'm still looking for a cute sub or switch male. That experience really brought out the beast in me lol.
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Since for whatever reason this has high visibility and people don't agree with this statement, go find and read this Wikipedia article on the Utah Data Center
“The responses were both fascinating and a bit unsettling,” the redditor continued, revealing what they thought of the response the thread received from the online community. “I was surprised by the sheer variety of secrets people are holding onto: everything from personal regrets and hidden identities to dark family secrets and past crimes. What surprised me the most was how open people were in sharing these things, even though they were doing so anonymously. It really shows the power of platforms like Reddit, where people feel safe enough to reveal things they might never tell anyone in their real lives.”