Few things hurt as much as lifelong friendships abruptly coming to an end. As James Blake sang, “As many loves that have crossed my path / In the end, it was friends who broke my heart.” Many of us have experienced friendship breakups, whether in middle school or as adults. In general, people prefer to be upfront about ending friendships, as 52% of Americans say it’s better to be direct than to slowly distance yourself.
But not all friendships end with a polite conversation. Sometimes, your friend does or says something so out-of-pocket or insulting that you know you can no longer be friends with such a person. Bored Panda has collected answers from three online threads where people were sharing the reasons they cut off their friends for good. Some of them were unexpected, others kind of deserved, but most are still heartbreaking.
#1
One of my best friends for 10 years very graphically hit on my 16 year old daughter. So I destroyed his life after hurting him really bad.
36points
#2
Going full MAGA. Note: we live in Vancouver, Canada..
30points
#3
Political views. My best friend of 37 years leaned further & further right. My family and I represented everything he stood against (lgbt+ representation in my son, mixed race marriage, mixed kids who shouldn’t exist, my wife and I are both proud union members, we use legal m*******a, I don’t like g*ns, and on & on).
He made a “joke” after the kids got sh*t in Parkland and I f*****g snapped. I told him we were done and enumerated all the ways that he’s against me and mine. I severed contact and haven’t spoken to him since. I’m not even angry at him, we are just too fundamentally different. I just wish I’d ended things sooner.
That was in 2018.
He made a “joke” after the kids got sh*t in Parkland and I f*****g snapped. I told him we were done and enumerated all the ways that he’s against me and mine. I severed contact and haven’t spoken to him since. I’m not even angry at him, we are just too fundamentally different. I just wish I’d ended things sooner.
That was in 2018.
23points
#4
He took me to his church where the entire sermon was about how I am going to hell for being not straight. I was not yet out of the closet. I had to f*****g move.
23points
#5
D***s 🥺
The day after I found out I was going to miscarry, she asked for my address. I assumed she was going to send me a sympathy card or something so I gave it. (Sure we'd been best friends since middle school but we didn't know addresses, just how to get to each other's houses, if that makes sense)
That isn't why she needed it. She told me she was going to give it to her boss in another state to send paperwork to her, because her mail kept getting stolen. She had trouble keeping a job and I didn't want to mess this up for her so I let it happen. She assured me she'd drivr over and grab her paperwork after the mail came and leave everything else so we wouldn't notice.
One day she didn't make it to my mailbox in time and my husband came home early, so HE got the mail. He saw the big envelope and called while I was at work and asked me what it was. I said I had no idea. She was using my name AND address. When she discovered he had the envelope she came to the door in a panic and demanded it, explaining it was very important paperwork. Husband said she was acting like she'd attack him if he didn't hand it over.
He decided to call the postmaster and have him hold everything going forward and only HE could get the mail directly. He knew I'd help my friend so I wasn't allowed to get it, only him. She had another envelope coming and lost her mind at me when she found out about this. She even tried going to the post office pretending to be me and then demanded I call them claiming my husband had no right to do what he did and to have them release the mail to her on my behalf.
It was d***s. The envelopes contained sheets of d***s or something between the pages of b******t paperwork. My name and address was so that if someone else opened them and reported it, I'd take the fall.
My husband works for the government and we were trying to start a family. If that happened we'd have been absolutely f****d over.
She claimed I should have known it was d***s and when the police interviewed her about it she made a deal to give up her "boss" as long as they left me alone. So I should be grateful to her.
Dude, you shouldn't have used me as a d**g mule in the first place!
The day after I found out I was going to miscarry, she asked for my address. I assumed she was going to send me a sympathy card or something so I gave it. (Sure we'd been best friends since middle school but we didn't know addresses, just how to get to each other's houses, if that makes sense)
That isn't why she needed it. She told me she was going to give it to her boss in another state to send paperwork to her, because her mail kept getting stolen. She had trouble keeping a job and I didn't want to mess this up for her so I let it happen. She assured me she'd drivr over and grab her paperwork after the mail came and leave everything else so we wouldn't notice.
One day she didn't make it to my mailbox in time and my husband came home early, so HE got the mail. He saw the big envelope and called while I was at work and asked me what it was. I said I had no idea. She was using my name AND address. When she discovered he had the envelope she came to the door in a panic and demanded it, explaining it was very important paperwork. Husband said she was acting like she'd attack him if he didn't hand it over.
He decided to call the postmaster and have him hold everything going forward and only HE could get the mail directly. He knew I'd help my friend so I wasn't allowed to get it, only him. She had another envelope coming and lost her mind at me when she found out about this. She even tried going to the post office pretending to be me and then demanded I call them claiming my husband had no right to do what he did and to have them release the mail to her on my behalf.
It was d***s. The envelopes contained sheets of d***s or something between the pages of b******t paperwork. My name and address was so that if someone else opened them and reported it, I'd take the fall.
My husband works for the government and we were trying to start a family. If that happened we'd have been absolutely f****d over.
She claimed I should have known it was d***s and when the police interviewed her about it she made a deal to give up her "boss" as long as they left me alone. So I should be grateful to her.
Dude, you shouldn't have used me as a d**g mule in the first place!
23points
#6
She kept telling me all these things people were saying about me and one day I heard a saying " dont tell me what theyve said about me, tell me why theyre so comfortable saying them to you" and it changed my outlook. After we stopped being friends I heard from people that she never once defended me and would join in on the s**t talking.
22points
#7
I'm a dude. She would use me for attention and a shoulder to cry on. Get a man and disappear. Then she used me to make her boyfriends jealous. It happened enough till my smooth brain recognized the pattern.
22points
#8
When a friend I’d known for 20 years started his own business and met a banker, started hanging out with him and warped his entire mindset about prioritizing money above basic human dignity and the lives of others.
Like I’d argue with him about things and ultimately his argument was about how much money would we save if we didn’t do X or Y, like healthcare. He’d argue that if you can’t afford to live, perhaps you shouldn’t be a drain on other people’s livelihoods.
“Why should my taxes be going to someone who doesn’t know how to save money? The world needs less people like that.”.
Like I’d argue with him about things and ultimately his argument was about how much money would we save if we didn’t do X or Y, like healthcare. He’d argue that if you can’t afford to live, perhaps you shouldn’t be a drain on other people’s livelihoods.
“Why should my taxes be going to someone who doesn’t know how to save money? The world needs less people like that.”.
18points
#9
Everytime we'd go out for a fun night at bars he'd end up screaming at his girlfriend when she was sweet to him. Insulting her, breaking up with her, making her cry and chase after him after he storms off.
I hold my male friends to a higher standard, so I cut him off. He's still complaining about it.
I hold my male friends to a higher standard, so I cut him off. He's still complaining about it.
18points
#10
They are more interested in me supporting them and their projects (which I am no longer interested in honestly) and have very little interest in my life or me as a person.
16points
#11
For me, it came after I had supported her through many mental health crises, drove to see her most of the time and then when I was in crisis she thought I was expecting to much from her. It made me realize that our whole dynamic was lopsided.
16points
#12
The mental health of a friend I’d had for years. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and for many years I had given her a lot of leeway and support through difficult times. But in the end it became a very big burden on me and she began to take advantage of my kindness, try to force me into unsafe situations with her during times of mania, and blame me for periods of depression. I had to step away and could not let myself back into that friendship which genuinely changed my life so much.
15points
#13
I told her what i really thought of her boyfriend.
16 year friendship down the drain.
I heard that he cheats on her a lot and she keeps taking him back.
Some people never change and grow.
16 year friendship down the drain.
I heard that he cheats on her a lot and she keeps taking him back.
Some people never change and grow.
14points
#14
He tried to hook up with my wife.
14points
#15
He started going off on rants about the "good" of eugenics. I'm disabled.
14points
#16
Getting s****l with me soon after I was widowed.
13points
#17
Her anger. I got tired of it.
13points
#18
After 10 years of friendship, she told me who not to invite to MY birthday. And it wasn't someone she didn't like or had beef with. It was bc, "I see her all the time." I gently said I'd really like to include her, she said 'no' again. And a lightbulb went off. She could see no problem with telling me who to include for my own freaking bday. That's f%ed up. Mind you we were both in our 40s.
13points
#19
He got into fitness and suddenly became very vocally critical of everything I ate. It became so constant and intense that I backed away from that friendship.
12points
#20
She believed my toxic mom over me.
12points