30 People Recall The Events That Made Them Break Up With A Partner They Planned On Marrying

To learn more about this topic, we reached out to London Celebrity Therapist and Relationship Counselor Nia Williams from Miss Date Doctor. Nia was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and discuss why most people do not end up marrying the first person they thought they would spend their life with.

"While some are fortunate to find their lifelong partner early on which such a blessing, it's common for many to experience at least one major heartbreak. This is a natural part of life's journey," the expert shared. "Relationships, especially our first serious ones, often serve as profound learning experiences. They teach us about ourselves, our needs, and the dynamics of sharing our lives with another person and major heart break is almost inevitable for most people."

We also asked Nia if it's good for daters to experience a painful heartbreak at some point. "While it may not feel so beneficial at the time, going through a significant break-up can be incredibly valuable," she shared. "Such experiences often teach resilience, self-awareness, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. They allow us to understand what we truly need in a partner and what we can offer in return."

"Through the pain, we learn to appreciate the qualities that matter most to us and recognize the importance of compatibility and mutual respect. There is no greater mirror on who we are and what we want than when we get into a relationship," Nia explained. "I have personally seen so many of my clients become so much more emotionally intelligent after a brutal break up. Although painful, it can help us do better in future and know what we truly want from a partner."

The counselor also provided some advice for anyone going through a painful break-up of their own. "Experiencing a major heartbreak is undeniably tough, and it's important to allow yourself to grieve. Here are a few pieces of advice for navigating this difficult time: allow yourself to feel," Nia says. "It's okay to be sad, angry, or confused. These emotions are a natural part of the healing process."

Next, the expert recommends seeking support. "Lean on friends, family, or a therapist. Sharing your feelings with trusted individuals can provide comfort and perspective," she told Bored Panda.

It's also recommended to focus on self-care. "Engage in activities that nurture your well-being. Exercise, hobbies, and mindfulness practices can help you reconnect with yourself," Nia noted.

"Reflect and grow: Take time to understand what the relationship taught you. Use these insights to grow as an individual and better prepare for future relationships," the therapist continued. And finally, she urges those going through break-ups to stay hopeful. "Remember that healing takes time, but you will get through this. Believe in the possibility of future happiness and love."

"It's important to remember that every relationship, even those that end in heartbreak, contributes to our personal growth and understanding of love. It's okay to mourn the loss but also recognize the strength and resilience you gain through these experiences," Nia added.

"You're not alone in your journey, and with time, the pain will subside, making way for new beginnings and opportunities for deeper connections. It is also important not to personalize or put yourself down," the therapist noted. "Rejection happens, and heartbreak happens. Do not feel that this has decreased your value in any way. There are over 7 billion people in the world, and one is for you. Don't give up."